Ask him out or not?
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| Sat, 01-20-2007 - 9:53pm |
I posted before on this board about a guy that does my lawn that I am interested in. This "flirting" has been going on since we met last June. Well, over the last few months I have seen alot of him, he also does odd jobs so I have hired him to do some things. He invited himself over for dinner under the guise of looking over the inside of my house and seeing what I need done. He came over and we had a really great time. We speak on the phone for about an hour or so everytime he calls or I call about another job in the house. Sounds like he is interested?
My problem is that I am still trying to lose some weight. I have lost alot already (which he commented on :) but I still have about 20 to lose and get in shape. I really want to ask him out, because the unknown is driving me crazy. But I really feel that if he says no it could be because of my weight right now. Should I assume that since he has actually shown more of an interest in me over these last few months that the weight is not an issue?
I really don't want to scare him off.
He owns the landscaping business and has a few guys working for him. Never married (found out he is bisexual though, but according to him prefers women).

I wonder why are you thinking in asking him out if he's had plenty of opportunities to have asked you out himself.
If he's been flirting with you for months, but has not asked you out maybe he's not that interested in going out with you and pursuing a serious relationship. IMHO, your weight has nothing to to with it because he's continued to flirt. A man who is not attracted to a woman due to her weight issues won't flirt and talk for hours on the phone, OR invite himself for dinner. Before asking him out I'd ponder on the following: him being bisexual is something that will affect you, given that you and him get to be intimate OR in any kind of relationship. He says he prefers women, but that doesn't mean that he doen't like me. Are you willing to share your man with another man, if he decides that he needs to have a man in his life? How is his health bill? Is he involved with a man or a woman at this time? Be careful, as in these days asking no questions and assuming information could be a death sentence.
Thanks for your input. I think he may feel that since I have only been separated for the past year that maybe I am not ready to date yet. I am really attracted to him physically. I am aware of the pitfalls of this type of relationship and being in my 40s I don't think I will do anything too recklessly. He talks openly about it and also being safe with either sex. He is 39 years old.
I guess I just want an answer either way and was wondering if anyone saw something I wasn't seeing. I am new to the dating scene, was with my ex for 27 years. It doesn't seem to bother me that he is bisexual, which is curious because he is not at all the type that I have been attracted to before. But I love talking to him and hanging out. At each job, whether it is mowing my lawn or something big he spends the entire time talking to me, and we talk about EVERYTHING, almost like I was with a girlfriend.
He complimented you which certainly shows an interest!
However re:bisexual, certainly if you do wind up getting intimate be careful