Uggh - Just Frustrating!

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Registered: 04-27-2006
Uggh - Just Frustrating!
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Sun, 01-21-2007 - 1:14pm

I broke up with this guy about 9 months ago, two months later I met this amazing man who I am deeply in love with and have been with ever since.

The problem is that I constantly and repeatedly have thoughts about my ex, like he is always in my mind and I can not get him out. I am not in love with him, I don't want to be thinking about him, and I don't want to be with him. Why do I constantly think about him?

I should point out that he was my first love, who I lost my virginity to and it lasted for a bout a year.

I want to be able to stop thinking about my ex, and give everything I have to my boyfriend now :)

What do I do?! Ughh.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 01-21-2007 - 1:57pm

Well your ex was your first love, first lover and that is very significant. And you weren't broken up that long before you met your current boyfriend. So this is a sign that you haven't processed it all, haven't gone through the mourning process, haven't figured out why you were in it, what the good points were, bad, what you learned from it, etc.


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