Update - Doing Better I Guess

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Registered: 09-08-2006
Update - Doing Better I Guess
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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 9:57am

Good morning everyone,

I just wanted to say hello to all of you and thank you all for the support you've given me through my time of need. I also wanted to let you all know all your wonderful advice did not just get wasted either. I printed out all the great and helpful responses I got on here and keep them at home to look at when I need a "boost". In fact, I used them last night. I have been going to my counselor (though its still just the beginning so its not really making any kind of dents in my feelings yet), but I'm still sticking with it. Anyway, something happened this weekend that was a little bit of a setback for me. I went out Saturday night with a friend of mine and when I came home, I went to go send a text message to my best friend, who's name happens to start with the same letter as "the guy". Now, mind you all I havent spoken or had any contact with him in over 2 weeks now. Here I am, thinking I sent my best friend a text message. I turn on my tv and I'm laying in bed waiting for her response, and I get one, only its not her. Its from him (their names start with the same letter and I must've accidentally sent her message to him). Here's the kicker… It said "who's this??" - I couldn’t believe it!! After everything that happened, this guy actually forgot who I am?? Or is it just that he's trying to make me feel bad?? The worst part is that it worked!! Why is it bothering me that this jerk who has treated me so badly, hacked into my stuff, belittled me, used me, and so on and so on said that he has forgotten me already? Shouldn’t I be glad?? I don’t know. I mean, it wasn’t enough for me to go contacting him again and trying to call him or whatever. I'm just saying it made me feel even worse. How could someone forget someone so quickly after something like that??

Anyway, I did want to come back and write and just let you all know that I did go back last night and read all the posts from the past that I've printed out. They really do help. My mother and my smart RN friend that I mentioned both said this guy is poison and he's not a good person and that I've dodged a bullet by him forgetting me. They both say I shouldn’t care what he thinks of me. Anyway, I've been getting together with friends and I'm considering going back to school for medical coding and billing. I would like to concentrate on trying to spend some time trying to better myself. Meeting jerks like that is not going to help me with that lol...

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 6:10am

Hi yellow,

What a nightmare...I live in fear of sending messages to the wrong person. I've been lucky so far.

OK, this may be far fetched, but could he be trying to help you save face? You know, pretending like this was some random email sent by someone he doesn't know? Just a thought.

I'm sure he hasn't forgotten you...I think many men just harden their hearts to move on. Sounds like he's a jerk anyway that is better out of your life.

Good for you that you're thinking of going back to school...I think that would be a great thing to do right now, not only to help you get past this guy, but it's for your future.

And, if you haven't already, delete this guy from your address book.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Mon, 01-29-2007 - 5:19pm
It's a good chance he was just trying to make you feel bad since he is a creep. You are taking the right steps - keep moving on, don't let him drag you down. And we're always here for you.
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