Photographing other women?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Photographing other women?
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Tue, 01-23-2007 - 9:06pm

I have hesitated to post this question, but my curiosity is getting the best of me. I have been dating a wonderful guy now for eight months. He seems as in love with me as I am with him. We are monogamous, and he is always thinking of nice things to do for me, and is always respectful.

However, we both got new cameras for Christmas and have been taking lots of pictures. One night at a bar, in addition to all the pictures he took of our friends, he spent a few minutes snapping three younger women out of my presence. I rounded the corner, and there he was, practically drooling over them. He even sent a copy of the picture to one of his buddies. But he also later said I could delete it because it meant nothing to him.

And then, he borrowed my camera on another occasion when we went skydiving. When I got it back, I noticed he had taken pictures not only of us and our instructors, but of a pretty women pulling her hair back in a ponytail before her jump.

I know why he did it; he likes pretty women! But am I overreacting to feel this was a bit disrespectful to me? I am not sure if he even asked these women if he could take their pictures. Kind of seems rude to them, too. I can't imagine going up to a strange guy and just taking his picture. I feel pretty sure my BF would not appreciate it. What is you all's take on this? Should I ignore it or let him know how it makes me feel?

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 9:16pm
I have a thing about photographing people without their permission. If these were some sort of artistic shots or shots of people in a group that is one thing, but taking pictures of other women while your girlfriend is hanging around and then forwarding them on to his buddy, well the whole situation gives me the creeps.
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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 12:14am

Not taking up for him at all, but the first group of women I mentioned were three drunk young women who seemed to be egging on TWO guys with cameras. He sent their picture on to his best friend as part of a whole album of photos.

But the second woman's photo just appeared in my camera, and I was quite shocked, because while I was on the scene when he took it, I did not see him do it or even speak to her. Wonder if he took it with my telephoto lens? Just found it a bit weird, and he didn't seem to be hiding it from me, since he left it on my camera.

I just could not turn this around and imagine myself doing any such thing. Why would I want another guy's photo, no matter how good looking, if I don't know him, esp. since I have my fantastic BF?

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Mon, 01-29-2007 - 5:16pm
I also think it's disrespectful and something you should bring up, not in accusatory way but to let him know it makes you uncomfortable
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