Be aggressive?

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Registered: 03-26-2006
Be aggressive?
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Sun, 01-28-2007 - 2:29am

I've been dating for too long, but I still don't think I have figured everything out. Last night I was out with a friend of some of her guy friends. One of them was coming on strong to me, talking me up all night. He just moved to my suburb, and he said I needed to show him around. He was being very aggressive.

I thought he was into me, but never asked for my number. I was confused. I had told my friend I was into him. He has to know I was receptive.

I'm not an aggressive girl. So, what do I do? Wait and see?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: vacn31
Sun, 01-28-2007 - 6:03am

vacn31...

3 Suggestions from Pianoguy:

1. Ask yourself if you like the man well enough to take things further. If your answer is NO...don't encourage him or make him feel like you do!

2. If you want to pursue a relationship with him...do it on "even turf"---and don't invite him over to your place until YOU REALLY GET TO KNOW HIM!

3. If he's hitting on you casually NOW...you can bet the more encouragement you give him, the sooner he'll expect MORE ACTION from you....so why not wait until he tries to contact you?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: vacn31
Mon, 01-29-2007 - 5:12pm
tell your friend that she can let it be known if he does want to be shown around he can call you... other than that, leave it alone. Clearly he enjoy ed your company. But you never really know what is going on in someone's life that take priority
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Registered: 03-26-2006
In reply to: vacn31
Mon, 01-29-2007 - 7:03pm

Well, out of the blue, he emailed me today and after a short email conversation asked if I was free this weekend. He must have gotten my email from my friend?

I have been forwarned by others that he is a player, but he seems ok so far. He actually asked me out way far in advance compared to other people!!