Have I missed my chance...

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2007
Have I missed my chance...
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Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:10am

Hi, I haven't been on this board for a very long time, I usually come here only when I have a dilemma and am in need of some advice.

I have a male friend who for months and months was telling me that he had feelings for me, how much he wanted to be with me etc. Although I kissed him a few times I was afraid to take it any further than that. He told me before Christmas and one last time how he felt about me and I completely blew him out.

It's only in the last couple of weeks and seeing that he has now moved on that I realise I do want to be with him and that all the time I was just afraid. (He actually told me this before and I denied it but he was right!)

Just today I found out that he is in a 'casual' relationship now with someone else and I feel awful.

Is it too late for me to do anything? Have I missed my chance? Should I tell this person how I feel?

Thanks in advance for any advice!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2004
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 4:54pm
In my opinion, you lost your opportunity.
He's dating someone right now. I'd let it be.
You'll have other opportunities again. He's not the last guy on earth.
Lesson learned. Next time you will be better prepared.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-24-2006
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 6:47pm

I disagree... its only been a bit over a month since christmas... and he is only in a 'casual' relationship... he has said how he feels, tell him how you feel... as long as it is feelings and not just jealousy that he has moved on...

glasses!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2007
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 9:29am
Thanks to the two people who responded. I think I've nothing to lose by telling him so I will pluck up the courage and do it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2006
Sat, 02-03-2007 - 5:11am

Hi.

Do you watch the tv show, scrubs? You know how Elliott is dating that awesome guy, and JD realizes that he wants Elliott back, and when he gets her, he realizes that he just wanted what he couldn't have? Is this the case in your situation? Just seems a bit odd that you waited until he was over you and casually dating someone else to start liking him back. Maybe wait to see what happens with his other relationship, and if he becomes single then re-evaluate whether you still have feelings for him.

Just my 2cents
Kristen