relationship taboo or not?

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Registered: 01-26-2004
relationship taboo or not?
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Mon, 02-05-2007 - 11:05pm
a co worker has showed some interest in me. we work in the same office. should i pursue it or not?
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Mon, 02-05-2007 - 11:24pm
Office romances are a dangerous territory. I'd suggest not to pursue it because if things don't go the right way it could jepardize your job (or his). Can you afford that?
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Registered: 01-26-2007
Tue, 02-06-2007 - 2:48pm
GIRL EVERYONE HAS OPINIONS BUT I SPEAK FROM EXPERIENCE ON THIS ONE. I WOULD SAY NOT A GOOD IDEA. LOTS OF PEOPLE FALL INTO THIS ONE, AS MYSELF, BUT FROM THE GET GO IT WAS A BAD THING. IT STARTED AS JUST A LITTLE HARMLESS FLIRTING CAUSE HE WAS H.O.T., BUT IT TURNED OUT HE WAS N.O.T.! IT CREATED MORE PROBLEMS FOR BOTH OF US. WE AT FIRST THOUGHT IT WAS OK ONCE WE ACTUALLY DID IT, BUT WHEN OTHERS NOTICED LITTLE WINKS OR QUIRKY SMILES, TALK BEGAN TO FLY. THEN WHEN SOMETHING WAS NOT RIGHT IN THE OFFICE, WE DID THE STARE DOWN THING AND THE SMUGNESS FROM EACH OF US DIDN'T FAIRWELL EITHER. THEN THERE WAS THE ANAMOSITY WHEN SOMEONE ELSE CAME INTO THE PITURE (NEW CO-WORKER)AND WE BEGAN PLAYING AN AWFUL GAME OF LET ME TELL YOU WHY YOU SHOULDN'T BE NICE TO SUCH AND SUCH, ETC... IN ANY CASE WE BOTH ENDED UP HAVING TO LEAVE PERFECTLY GOOD JOBS OVER SOMETHING AS STUPID AS GETTING NAUGHTY WITH THE "JUST GOOD WORKING BUDDY".
IT'S FUNNY YOU WOULD ASK THIS AT THIS TIME ON HERE TOO CAUSE I NOW HAVE A BOYFRIEND THAT IS A CO-WORKER WITH ONE OF MY LONG TIME FRIENDS AND SHE HAS BEEN DIVORCED FOR TWO YEARS NOW AND TURNED INTO A WILD SEX AHOLIC (DOING THINGS FOR REAL THAT SHE AND I ONLY JOKED AND LAUGHED ABOUT WHEN SHE WAS HITCHED). AND SHE GOES TO WORK AND TELLS MY BOYFRIEND ABOUT HER SEXUAL ESCAPADES AND OF COURSE BEING A VERY SEXUAL, YOUNG, SWEET PACKAGE HIMSELF, HE POPS A LOLLIPOP SOMETIMES LISTENING TO HER TALK ABOUT IT. DIRTY TALK INTEREST MOST MEN. I KNOW THIS CAUSE I CAUGHT HIM ONE DAY THINKING ABOUT WHAT SHE HAD SAID AND HE WAS GIVING SOME THOUGHT TO SUGGESTIONS SHE HAD TRIED, (WHICH THAT DIDN'T PAN OUT TO GOOD BY THE END OF THE CONVERSATION.)IN ANY CASE SHE TENDS TO GET A LITTLE FREAKY WHEN OUT AMONGST THE PUBLIC DRINKING, SHE HAS NO BREAST, BUT LOVES TO SHOW ALL THE GUYS. MY GUY EXCLAIMED THAT HE WAS THE ONLY GUY IN OUR TOWN WHO HASN'T SEEN THEM. I BECAME VERY FURIOUS WITH HIM AND TOLD HIM HE HAD BETTER NEVER ASK AND TURN HIS HEAD IF SHE EVEN THOUGHT ABOUT SHOWING HIM. THIS WOULD MAKE ME MIS-TRUST HIM AND WONDER WHEN THEY WERE AT WORK ALONE AS SOMETIMES HAPPENS, IF ANYTHING MIGHT HAPPEN THAT SHOULDN'T. AND SECONDLY I TOLD HIM THAT THEY HAD BOTH JUST THEN MADE ME GO THRU SOMETHING SIMILAR IN WHICH AN X DID THAT WITH ANOTHER FRIEND WHICH COST US A MARRAIGE.
SO SORRY THIS IS SO LONG BUT IF IT CAN HAPPEN TO SOMEONE IT CAN HAPPEN TO SOMEONE ELSE. AND BELIEVE ME I'VE HEARD THE WERE JUST FRIENDS JUNK BEFORE TOO. AH NO!!!!! TO THAT ONE TOO.
LEARNED MY LESSON
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Registered: 02-06-2007
Wed, 02-07-2007 - 11:38am
I totally agree! I pursued a guy at work once and it was great until we broke up. It then got ugly and I eventually quit my job over it. Work romances are NOT worth it!
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Wed, 02-07-2007 - 12:10pm

It's good to give this some thought beforehand.

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