Need some advice

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Registered: 02-16-2007
Need some advice
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Fri, 02-16-2007 - 10:00am
I met a guy online, we started talking via email for about 3 months. After that we meet and starting dating. He is full time military so his schedule may vary. Anyways we have been seeing each other for about 2 months. Here is my questions: I know that his profile is still active and he updates and checks periodically--is he just keeping his options open while we continue to see each other. Next a friend of mine sent me link that showed he also has a profile on an adult site (AFF). (same question above options open). He has had these sites way before we even met online. I know that he has not seen anyone else since we started seeing each other. My last question is should I ask him if we are working towards building a relationship or is this just casual.
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 12:48pm

As long as the two of you have not agreed to anything else, both of you can keep your options open. If you are confused about where this is going, definitely have a discussion with him. He may think the relationship is casual, in which case you will know where you stand.

If this man is still actively updating his profile and also has himself listed on an adult site, I would not have sex with him until the situation changes. He might already have an STD or may obtain one in the near future.