How do I date more than one guy?!
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How do I date more than one guy?!
| Mon, 07-02-2007 - 3:19pm |
I just got out of a terribly heartbreaking relationship about 2 months ago. Since then, I've decided that I will just date around. I've never done this before, I've always limited myself to a "boyfriend." Apparently, that route isn't working, and I wanted to finally get out there and test all the waters. Now I am talking to 2 or 3 guys, just casually, but I don't know how to do it!! What if one of them calls while I'm with the other? They all know that I'm not jumping into a relationship and I won't see anyone exclusively right now, but I'm not sure how to handle it all...help!!

Well, you just do it ;-)! You let the call go to voicemail (it's rude to answer calls when you're out with someone anyway, regardless of who it is). You don't talk about your dates to other men (that's tacky). You take your time and get to know each man, and don't have sex with anyone until you've decided to date one of them exclusively (or at least that's my rule of thumb--we each need to find our own comfort zone on that issue). You evaluate the words and actions of the men you're seeing over time, and see who is consistent and shows you the qualities you want in a potential partner. Most likely, some of the men will drop out of the picture, or you'll decide you're not interested in some of them, and new men will come into the picture.
A good book to read about this is called "Date Like a Man" by Myreah Moore. She advocates dating 3 men at a time (a "Pair and a Spare") and I find that's about the right number as well--although given the number of flakes I've been meeting lately I have been needing to increase number to 4 or 5 just to have 1 or 2 dates a week.
Sheri