To Date Him or Not to Date Him?
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To Date Him or Not to Date Him?
| Tue, 07-03-2007 - 1:14am |
Okay so I've been on a online dating site for about a year and half and have only gone on one date with a guy that turned out to be horrible...I checked his name out on dontdatehimgirl.com. Anyways back in January one guy AIM'ed me and we started talking...he seems like a genuine person and very kind. I live in NorCal while he lives in SoCal so I knew that there was no way that we could reallly see each other...so I tried to let him know that and for a couple of days we didn't message each other...But he insisted that we still talk and I was feeling a little on the lonely side...in the mean time he was booking a flight up here for a wedding he is going to. He would mention that we should get together and hang out when he comes up here...I would just brush it off and say its a while from now..blah blah blah...so now that while is tomorrow and he wants to hang out with me sometime this week...I have a pretty busy week and and he got a little offended that I couldn't make time for him. I did say that perhaps we could hang out on Sunday. Now you have to understand a few things...we have never talked on the phone...ever...and thats not because he hasn't tried because he certainly has and has given me his number multiple times, but I am really shy and don't really like to talk on the phone, plus I live with my parents and of course they are really nosey. On top of that I am 20 about to turn 21 and have never been in a relationship. He is 26 and I'm sure that he's been in a few. I also feel that he would be disappointed in me or that if something does work out it would be hard because long distance relationships isn't probably ideal for somebody who has never been in one in the first place. He even said that he wouldn't mind moving up here if something would ever happen. So what should I do? Should I give him my number for I believe he already has, and make him call me? Should I go out with him this Sunday and see if there is something there? I really don't know what to do, help me.

How long a drive is it from where you live to where he lives?
"I also feel that he would be disappointed in me" --> why do you say that?
"that if something does work out it would be hard because long distance relationships isn't probably ideal for somebody who has never been in one in the first place." --> I agree with you here, it is a bit challenging for the first one.
"He even said that he wouldn't mind moving up here if something would ever happen." --> sounds good.
"Should I give him my number for I believe he already has, and make him call me?" --> why not? Are you worried your parents would object to him in some way?
"Should I go out with him this Sunday and see if there is something there?" --> definitely!!