what next after the first date???

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Registered: 05-30-2007
what next after the first date???
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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 10:29am
I have been talking to this really great guy over the internet through a dating service, we went from that to talking on the phone and having really great conversation. We finally decided to meet and though nerve wracking for the both of us, I came up with an adventure for our first date so something that would normally last 1 hr last about 5-6 hours from going to a Vineyard doing wine tasting, driving, listening to music talking and laughing to ending the date with coffee and more conversation. Before he got out of the car he said that was a really great first date and I will call you. Well instead of waiting a couple of days, he called me that evening to tell me again he had a good time and although he seems to have committment issues, I mentioned a 2nd date and when he hesitated and said he didn't know when I said just if and he said yes. Though I haven't heard from him since then, I wonder if maybe he got scared off or if he's trying to find something better, or if he's just been busy. Should I be concerned and if not what's next? I was married 7 years so this is all new to me again. Please help with any advice you can offer.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 07-03-2007 - 7:17pm

If he is dating a number of women at the same time it could take him time to size up who he would prefer dating on a steady basis. If you have the opportunity to go out with someone else, go. Dont wait around for any of these guys to make a decision.

Generally speaking, there are guys who prefer to make the overtures of dating and following up and then there are those who enjoy someone who takes an active role in dating. You just need to find your fit.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sat, 07-07-2007 - 6:54pm

He obviously does like you and enjoyed spending time with you but he has said he has commitment issues. What does that mean exactly.

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Registered: 05-30-2007
Sun, 07-08-2007 - 1:08am
Thanks datedoyenne for your message. He did call Thursday night earlier than what he normally calls left a message because the phone was busy said he called to say hello and he would try to call later. I feel better after your message and hope that even though I may not hear from him this week maybe the next.