What should I say when I call?

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Registered: 07-05-2007
What should I say when I call?
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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 11:03pm
A coworker of mine told me that she knew a guy that she thought I would like. she asked me if I minded her passing along the phone number and I said no. Well, that was a couple of weeks ago and I had really forgotten about it. Well, the guy called yesterday and left a message. I haven't called back because I don't know what to say. What should I say when I call back? I'll have to call back tomorrow because it will have been 2 days. Should I try to get to know him on the phone? And if so, what should I say? Or, should I immediately ask him to meet me for a drink? That way I'll know if there is any attraction. Help!! I've been out of the dating scence for a while so I am totally confused.
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:47am
Honey, call him and let him know that you're XX, friend of NN, and that you're returning his call. He'll say something along the lines of "Oh, yeah how are you...." and you can follow his lead. If you have something to talk about over the phone and you'd like to meet him ask him to meet you at a coffee shop, restaurant, etc for a quick bite.
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Registered: 07-06-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 11:03am

Say, I have been thinking about it, and I think I am going to let you take me out. How is saturday, 7 okay?

Guys like a girl that takes some initiative..

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:27pm

"Should I try to get to know him on the phone?
---> you can have a short conversation on the phone and get to know a little about him. I have been able to tell over the phone whether or not a guy was angry and not someone who should be dating at all, so I was happy I had those conversations with them. It saved both parties a lot of trouble. And then, one day, I ran into one of the guys who I knew should not be dating (he kept going on and on about the ex wife and the money and the heartache, blah blah) and realized he wouldn't "do it" for me on any level at all.

"And if so, what should I say?" ---> What do you normally talk about when you first meet people? Since you know nothing about him, it will probably require some basic conversation like age, work, where he lives, how is it that he has found himself single, music, you can discuss how funny and awkward these kind of moments are...hehe.

Your blind date may ask you if you want to meet, so think things could take off on its own.

"Or, should I immediately ask him to meet me for a drink? That way I'll know if there is any attraction." --->As long as it is not a long distance type deal, and if you are a little nervous but want to meet, you could meet for lunch or brunch. The atmosphere is more casual and eventually you have to leave to go back to work or get started on the rest of your day. Or, if things go well...the date becomes your day.

I know how you feel, I have been out of the dating scene for a while too. So much has changed out there.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sat, 07-07-2007 - 6:43pm

Try to relax a little - there isn't much at stake here. You're just talking to someone who might become a new friend.
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