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| Thu, 07-12-2007 - 4:11pm |
arite...So i met this guy...out one night with a bunch of our friends..we had a mutual friend so i had him give this guy my number. He called me about 2 days later...we hung out...things were good we hung out like every day for a week. Then we would take a day off here and there which was fine because i had stuff to do and plans with friends and whatnot. I thought things were going well...his friends were asking us what was going on between us...we were what i felt like beginning something..he would tell me how much he loved hangin out with me...how comfortable he felt around me..how fun i was..how he was so mad he hadnt met me sooner..then out of nowhere...his grandpa went into the hospital..i knew that he was close with his grandparents because they lived with him his whole life. out of nowhere..he wouldnt call me when he said he would...wouldnt return my phone calls...his text messages to me were short..finally i got a chance online to confront him on why he was blowing me off? just asking nicely what was going on? i told him that i would leave him alone...and he said he didnt want that to happen...then he said he didnt want a relationship because he just got out of one.
Now..i know what this looks like...but he came on to me..he pursued me..i mean..do you think his ex came back in the picture? or maybe he just wasnt into me...but he sure seemed like it...or maybe he is severely depressed or stressed about his grandpa? i'm not sure! i'm open for any thoughts...should i just leave him alone...cut him outta my life? like..i'm confused haha what do i do??????????????

hi Lauren,
First, it is hard for men to deal with alot of emotions at once, so I'm finding out! With his grandfather ill, he probably has to deal with that sadness and his family more. I'm guessing he also has wounds over his last relationship. It is possible he is thinking of her as she may have been the one he went to when in distress. And that's natural. We think of our ex's when we're down and need a hand to hold, right? But it does NOT mean that he wants to get back with her or anyone. It's just part of the grieving process. We all go through it, I still am.
But BELIEVE HIM when he says he's not ready. Give him space. You two went too fast seeing each other almost every day after just meeting and he may be a bit nervous. If he calls you later down the road, take it real slow, but keep moving on in your life. Don't wait on this one. He'll come around and he'll appreciate your letting him have the space and not pushing him for answers or being angry with him. You may even be friends down the road as you have mutual friends, and friendship FIRST is not a bad thing.
If you do talk to him again soon, tell him you hope his grandad is ok and you understand. Then move on with your life. You had a good one before this brief encounter, go get it back!
Patty
PATTY
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