Starting to like her sister...advice?

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Registered: 07-19-2007
Starting to like her sister...advice?
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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 7:34am
First of all I am a brand new member and I cam across this site while searching on yahoo for online message boards dealing with dating advice and that type of thing. I am hoping you can help me out. I'm not sure how many guys are on here but I'm a guy just so you know. Anyways......I have a problem and I'm not sure what to do about it. You see, me and my girlfriend Ashley have been dating for about 8 months but we have broken up twice (my decision) in that time period. I was living with my aunt but about two months ago I moved in with Ashley, who is 19 almost 20, and she lives at her moms house. Her moms really nice. But anyways, I am starting to like her older sister, and we are both 21 years old. I find it hard not to "check her out" when we are in the same room and maybe its just me but I see her doing the same to me. She is a partier and Ashley isn't. The thing is I find myself not being content in mine and Ashley's relationship and Ive thought to myself for awhile now that we act more like friends than boyfriend-girlfriend. She can get an attitude with me at times which can get on my nerves. For example the other night I asked Ashley if she wanted to go get something to eat and she replied with an attitude and while Ashley was in the other room her sister said to me "Is that how she always treats you?" and I said "Not really, just right now thats how she is." Am I reading into this too much or do you think thats a sign that her sister likes me? And if we end up liking each other do you think I should pursue a possible relationship. Her family has alot of get togethers so it might be awkward for me and Ashley to be around each other but I would hope we would still be friends if anything were to happen. Its also important to note that Im not a partier and her sister goes out alot, but with her ex she quit partying and hanging out with her friends and was with him mostly. Im not against partiers, but I just dont do it. What do you guys think of all of this? Thanks in advance.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 11:26am

It's possible that the two previous breakups have wittled away at your relationship, so now Ashley has a chronic attitude.

The fact that you are attracted to someone else is a sign that maybe your relationship with Ashley has reached it's limit.

If you feel that you no longer love or like Ashley, then the best things to do is break up. Next, you would need to find another place to live. I wouldn't suggest dating Ashley's sister. That would be asking for a lot of trouble, pain and suffering which would ultimately destroy any relationship you could have with Ashley's sister.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 3:02pm

Vedder20


Two break-ups in an 8 month relationship... Ashley probably already knows and expects to get dumped again.

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Registered: 04-15-2006
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 1:43am
I think you're reading too much into what her sister does because you're unhappy in your relationship with Ashley. Like the other poster said, she looks good because you don't like your current relationship. I agree on the ending it with Ashley and moving out. Even IF the sister did like you she probably wouldn't go out with you being her little sister's ex.
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Registered: 07-19-2007
Sat, 08-18-2007 - 11:12pm
Hey this is kinda an update but me and Ashley have talked about moving out into her old house cause her mom still owns it once we save up some money. The problem here is I dunno if I could see myself doing this and being happy with this. Her sister's best friend Krystal comes over alot and always says hi to everyone and even when I was half asleep with my eyes closed the other day she came down in the basement and said hi. This probably doesn't mean much but if I did break up with Ashley and move on, even if Krystal parties, that doesnt mean I couldn't date her if she wanted to. Would you say dating my gf's sister's best friend is a bad idea or if I do happen to move on should I just move onto someone else? What do you guys think? thanks!
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Registered: 07-21-2006
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 7:21pm

DATING YOUR (EX) GIRLFRIEND'S ANYTHING IS A VERY BAD IDEA!!! Once the throes of passion wears out, you will just wind up in the middle of a nasty situation. And girls tend to stay more loyal to their friends (in my experience), cause boys will come and go, but friends (should be) forever. Or at least long-term. Don't date anyone your current GF is close to. It will hurt her badly and piss off a lot of people and give you a bad reputation as a sleazeball, to boot.
***If you don't know where you are going, any road will take you there. Lewis Carroll (1832-1898)***
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 4:05pm

If you don't see a happy future with Ashley, then end it.

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Fri, 08-24-2007 - 3:02pm
If you do happen to move on? It sounds like you 've got one foot out the door.
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