Starting to like her sister...advice?
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Starting to like her sister...advice?
| Thu, 07-19-2007 - 7:34am |
First of all I am a brand new member and I cam across this site while searching on yahoo for online message boards dealing with dating advice and that type of thing. I am hoping you can help me out. I'm not sure how many guys are on here but I'm a guy just so you know. Anyways......I have a problem and I'm not sure what to do about it. You see, me and my girlfriend Ashley have been dating for about 8 months but we have broken up twice (my decision) in that time period. I was living with my aunt but about two months ago I moved in with Ashley, who is 19 almost 20, and she lives at her moms house. Her moms really nice. But anyways, I am starting to like her older sister, and we are both 21 years old. I find it hard not to "check her out" when we are in the same room and maybe its just me but I see her doing the same to me. She is a partier and Ashley isn't. The thing is I find myself not being content in mine and Ashley's relationship and Ive thought to myself for awhile now that we act more like friends than boyfriend-girlfriend. She can get an attitude with me at times which can get on my nerves. For example the other night I asked Ashley if she wanted to go get something to eat and she replied with an attitude and while Ashley was in the other room her sister said to me "Is that how she always treats you?" and I said "Not really, just right now thats how she is." Am I reading into this too much or do you think thats a sign that her sister likes me? And if we end up liking each other do you think I should pursue a possible relationship. Her family has alot of get togethers so it might be awkward for me and Ashley to be around each other but I would hope we would still be friends if anything were to happen. Its also important to note that Im not a partier and her sister goes out alot, but with her ex she quit partying and hanging out with her friends and was with him mostly. Im not against partiers, but I just dont do it. What do you guys think of all of this? Thanks in advance.

It's possible that the two previous breakups have wittled away at your relationship, so now Ashley has a chronic attitude.
The fact that you are attracted to someone else is a sign that maybe your relationship with Ashley has reached it's limit.
If you feel that you no longer love or like Ashley, then the best things to do is break up. Next, you would need to find another place to live. I wouldn't suggest dating Ashley's sister. That would be asking for a lot of trouble, pain and suffering which would ultimately destroy any relationship you could have with Ashley's sister.
Vedder20
Two break-ups in an 8 month relationship... Ashley probably already knows and expects to get dumped again.
DATING YOUR (EX) GIRLFRIEND'S ANYTHING IS A VERY BAD IDEA!!! Once the throes of passion wears out, you will just wind up in the middle of a nasty situation. And girls tend to stay more loyal to their friends (in my experience), cause boys will come and go, but friends (should be) forever. Or at least long-term. Don't date anyone your current GF is close to. It will hurt her badly and piss off a lot of people and give you a bad reputation as a sleazeball, to boot.
If you don't see a happy future with Ashley, then end it.