Extremely attracted to the wrong man...
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| Mon, 07-23-2007 - 7:00am |
Need any advice on this situation...
I met a guy about a month ago through some mutual friends... he told me he was interested in me but I wasn't really interested in him. We are total opposites and have very little in common. I have a professional job and have been going to grad school. He's never gone to college and works in a blue collar field... He's a total free spirit and I'm totally grounded. But for some reason, I'm extremely attracted to him? He challenges my opinions and is never afraid to disagree with me. But because of our differences, it makes me very leary of getting involved with him and I think he feels the same way, yet we cannot seem to break away. Is this a match made in h*ll or in heaven? Can a relationship work between two people who are total opposites?

My crystal ball predicts great sex for the two of you, hehehe. You are obviously sexually attracted to each other right now. Is that so bad?
With all seriousness, the only way this can work is if you share the same value system and grow into each other. By that I mean you both develop common interests. Maybe he exposes you to a hobby he enjoys and you discover that you enjoy it too. Or vice versa.
I have experienced relationships where I did have a lot in common with the men and those where I didn't have a lot in common with the men. Neither relationship survived long term, but it was less taxing on the relationship when we shared common interests and background.
Lots of opposites attract relationships do work out as each shows each other exciting different ways to be. There's nothing wrong with being challenged. But there has to be a core of comonality at heart - in terms of spirt, goals, beliefs, etc.