Is it too forward or soon to tell a guy…

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Is it too forward or soon to tell a guy…
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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 11:23pm

I just met one day ago that he is a cool guy? I met 2 days ago at a party I went with a female friend a guy the same age as me (36 yrs old). I met this guy thru that friend I went to the party. What it surprised me about this guy was that he is still single, never been married and no kids that is because at our age the majority of guys are either already married with kids or divorced with kids or only divorced. We already exchanged email messages and cell phone numbers. The total amount of time I talked to this guy since the first time I was introduced to him was just like5 hours. He told me some things about his job and personal life (single, no kids, live by himself almost 6 yrs ago, he like to do sports), I mean the usual questions when you first start meeting any person. When I ask him for his email address during a cell phone message text (he was in another place that is why I could not ask him personally so I had to use the cell phone to ask him), he gave it to me, then he message me again like 10 minutes after and asked me if I got his email address, I replied him and said: “Yes thanks”, then again he replied the message and asked me: “Are you going to send me a message?”

The thing is that I like chatting with him and I hope he felt the same way. I mean it is too soon to say I like him, I know, but I feel we had some chemistry I don’t know if he feel the same or not or Im just a friend he met. I do want to email him to give him my email address because I never got the chance to give it to him in any moment in that email I want to tell him that it was a pleasure to meet him and also that he is a cool guy. But is it too soon to tell a guy I just recently met that? I mean I don’t want him to think that just by telling him that, he might think I like him already only one day after meeting him for the first time. I mean I don’t want him to think that just by telling him that, he might think I like him. I mean he is cute and all but we just recently met.

I was planning to even tell my female friend (who know him a bit more than me of course)if he can help me with him I mean getting to know him more, because I really felt attracted to him.

I mean I have never ever dated in my life, I have never had a boyfriend either and now that I met a guy that is the same age as me single, never married and no kids, that is like something is telling me in my mind: “hey get to know him better, because guys with those features are hard to find in a 36 yrd old man, so get to know him more” But I can only do that if he feels the same way to me, I mean that he thinks Im a cool girl he met and do want to continue exchanging messages and who knows hang out together in the future when we know each other more. But how can that happen if I don’t know if he really wants to get to know me better? I mean Im not getting married anytime soon or plan to get married soon as well, but I don’t like the fact that Im not getting any younger and I will never experience what it feels to date someone

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 4:01pm

If you want to email this guy, then do so. You can add something to your email that says that he seems like a cool person to get to know and that you look forward to doing that.

I'm sure he would like that type of understated compliment. You dont want to gush about him to him right away because you dont know if this will lead to dating.

Do NOT get your friend involved in this relationship. It will backfire on you. Get to know him on your own and by your own actions.

Dating is not all joy. It brings joy and pain, just remember that.