Should I try again?

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Registered: 10-17-2005
Should I try again?
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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 5:07pm

Okay, so a while back I was set up with this guy through a friend. We went out on five dates and everything seemed to be going well. I liked him and supposedly he liked me or so the person who set us up told me. Well, he has always been very busy with his work so we wouldn't see each other every week. But we normally emailed weekly.

He sent me this email back in February that basically said we should go out again and then told me when he thought he would be free. I wrote him back and told him it sounded good and to let me know when. But he never wrote back-- nothing. I also never wrote back-- thinking maybe he had second thoughts about me. I am now considering emailing him back to basically say hi and ask how things have been. I would also like to ask what happen but logically know that wouldn't be a good idea. Not sure if this would be the best thing to do or if I should simply leave it alone.

The hardest thing is that I had feelings for him and I never knew why he never wrote/called back. Was it a miscommunication and he thought I didn't like him? Was it his way of saying he wasn't interesting? The odd thing was I thought for the longest time the friend who set us up knew maybe it ended, but I never asked. Just the other week, she asked if I had talked with him lately. Really confused.... Any suggestions for what I should do..

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-01-2007 - 6:03pm

I would leave it alone, and I'd have told the friend, no, he never responded to my last email so I assumed he changed his mind about me.

Sheri

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 08-01-2007 - 6:11pm
Sheri's idea is an option or you could email just to say hi but add..."I guess things didn't work out between us, but I thought I'd say 'hi'." This way there is no confusion as to why things never took off, according to you.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 10:44pm
Why can't you ask the friend what's going on? Say you had emailed him back saying yes you would like to get together and never heard from him again.
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