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Too Picky?
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:44am |
I have a lot of trouble meeting guys but it seems like when I actually do meet one, I will be interested at first then lose interest for no apparent reason! This happens over and over. Am I just not meeting the right guys or am I being too picky? Help!!!

Grownazzwoman out!
Since you said any advice is welcome, I'll pitch in my 2 cents.
This is how things normally go: boy and girl meet, they have general interest in each other, they get to know each other, get intimate..and if things go well up until this point...things are looking good. As time goes on, both parties get a peek at their SO's inner person...their habits, quirks, traits, thoughts, values and...it either goes one way or the other. Meaning you either determine that the person is someone who you wish to be a long term partner or a live-in or spouse. If not, then the two break up due to learning the hopes, dreams, ambitions, deal breakers of the other.
So..the way I see it...you encounter your deal breakers within a 3 month time frame. There is nothing wrong with that, unless your deal breakers are perceived by you to be shallow...like...he put on 5 pounds, or he doesn't wear the "right" type of clothes or watches, or his hair begins to thin...these could be perceived as shallow.
Just because you begin dating someone it doesn't mean that it has to evolve into a long term thing.