SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME OUT!!!

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Registered: 08-08-2007
SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME OUT!!!
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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 2:16pm
Almost 4 months ago i met a guy online. We've been talking daily ever since. Although we still havent met i feel like i've fallen for him so i decided to tell him not too long ago.The first time i told him i love him his reply was "I like you alot too". It really did some damage. I really dont know what to think or what he's thinking. I dont know how to approach the situation or how/if i should even talk to him about it. Lately he's been calling me every 2 days when he usually calls me everyday. When i ask him about it he says he's working or running around for his mother. Is it coming to an end, does it have to do with us not seeing each other yet. SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME SOMETHING!!!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 2:27pm

Well, I can only speak for myself but someone I have NEVER MET telling me that they loved me would TOTALLY freak me out!!! It would make me feel that the other person didn't have a very realistic or healthy view of love or relationships and I would definitely back off or stop talking to the person.

But, I would also never talk so long to someone without meeting in person. Why have you talked for so long without meeting? Nothing's real until you meet and spend a significant amount of time together in person, so you need to remember that.

Sheri

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 2:40pm
It sounds like he doesn't reciprocate your feelings. You can ask him if what you said affected him in a negative way, but he may not be forth coming. This happens quite a bit to people, men and women. Maybe it is best that you find out now that your feelings for each other are different so you dont waste any more of your time.
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Registered: 08-07-2007
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 3:48pm

Just curious, so you guys never met each other, just talk via phone. However, have you ever seen his pictures or even online chatting with webcam?

The key is: if you have no idea about how he looks like, just based on the telephone conversation, if you guys ever meet up later, his appearance might shock you to death! Besides, I think when you said you loved him might possibly made him back off or holding back in case if he never saw even your picture! Just some silly opinions from me, hope you don't mind!