when to start dating?

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Registered: 07-08-2007
when to start dating?
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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 1:28am

I dated a guy for eight months and he broke up with me because he was not good enough for me, according to him. He had done this previously last year after dating for three months and broke up with me for three months for the same reason. Well this time I am not going to sit around and cry for weeks and months over him, I did that the first time he broke up with me.

My question is, how soon after the breakup should I start going out on dates with other people. I am not looking for any serious committment at this time, just someone to talk to and spend some time with.

P.S. It has been two weeks since the last breakup.

Thank you in advance,

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Registered: 08-12-2007
Sun, 08-12-2007 - 7:28am
well there is no such things called right time to go into a new things...well it depends upon u..like the best thing happened to u i that guy is nomore in yr life.. coz u have had given him second chance.. i really think u r still waiting things to be right...why do u want someone in yr life right away?? yes u may feel alone but girl look there r so many things being single(think abt it ..) n above all there is time for u.. look at yrself n ask yrself what do u really want to do in yr life.... just take yr time and be focus at first.. if u really feel that u want to date right away u can .. but the thing is dont let yrself hurt again.....n put yrself into foolish situations.... just take yr time n do something special for yrself... it would be the best.. by the way u never know when will someone knock yr doors.. just let things happen the way they r.. be focused.... ull get someone u deserve soon....
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 08-12-2007 - 9:47am

This isn't a time table issue but about your real readiness. You don't want to date as a reaction to this guy but because you are ready.

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sun, 08-12-2007 - 8:34pm
If you start dating to help heal your wounds from this last guy then when a new relationship breaks up you will have 2 wounds to heal. When you are enthusiastic about dating and the prospect of meeting a new guy is when you are ready. While you are angry, hurt and sad it is best to doing things just for yourself, hanging out with good friends and family so that you can heal first. I didnt give myself enough time after my first marriage broke up and then when I finally slowed down I realized I never completely worked through my emotions over my ex husband, plus I had new relationship issues I had to resolve within my self because I jumped out of the gate running.