What should I do?

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Registered: 08-13-2007
What should I do?
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Mon, 08-13-2007 - 3:12pm
Okay I like a co-worker, we hung out once and exchanged a lot of e-mail which suddenly stopped. I'd heard say before that she didn't want a boyfriend but at the time she was talking about someone else so I paid it no mind. But after she stopped e-mailing me. I sent her one last e-mail explaining my feeling for her and letting her know that if she did not feel the same I still wanted to be friends. and she replied as follows. Should I just move on or is there still a chance.


Edited 8/13/2007 3:43 pm ET by acheyheart

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Registered: 04-23-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 3:17pm

Hi Acheyheart,

I think you should just move on. I don't think she wants to get involved with you 1) because you work together, 2) because she doesn't see you as a potential boyfriend. Dating co-workers is trouble, anyway. You should start dating other girls!!!

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Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 3:18pm
Sorry to say this, but she is letting you know nicely that she isn't interested. If she was, she would probably go ahead take the chance of getting involved with you - in spite of the fact that you are co-workers.
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Registered: 08-13-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 3:21pm
I really do like this girl, and she gave evry indication that she liked me, touchig and trying to make eye contact. I was actually the one looking away and avoiding contact at first. Did I ruin things by doing that?
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Registered: 08-13-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 3:24pm
How do I always get stuck in the friend category I go out with a girl they seem to have a great time and then they just want to be friends what causes this.
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Registered: 04-23-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 3:25pm
I can do all of those things, too, but trully am not interested in a guy. It's just an ego booster and flirtation. Pretty much all girls do it with guys that are interested in them. I still think that there is not a chance left, and that you should start dating other people. If you pursue, you might come off as a stalker and she will end up hating you.
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Registered: 04-23-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 3:27pm
Have you thought about the fact that you might be trying too hard and come off as desparate? I usually lose interest in guys who try too hard and too fast. I am not saying you should play games, but you have to keep your cool.
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Registered: 08-13-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 3:28pm
Thanks for the info and I'll definately move any tips on how to tell if a girl really likes and is not just flirting?
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Registered: 04-23-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 3:30pm
I don't know about other girls, but I am usually kinda nervous around the guy. I tend too blush and say silly things. It's for the guys that I don't care, that I can come off as over confident. But, again, that's just me.
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Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 3:38pm
Sweetie, I don't know why - I wish I did. Take heart, though - it's not because of anything you did or didn't do. And dating someone at your workplace really is risky - I've done it, and things were so awkward after it ended that I vowed to never do it again!
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Registered: 06-14-2006
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 6:53pm
If she were interested in you, she would make it known. She stopped e-mailing you, that should tell you something. I feel for you, but you can't make someone like you. good luck

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