Number of past partners?

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Registered: 11-04-2003
Number of past partners?
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Sun, 08-19-2007 - 1:20pm

So, my boyfriend and I somehow got in the conversation of how many each other has slept with. He told me his number, and I told him how many guys I have slept with. The number of girls he's slept with kind of surprised me a little, as I thought it was a little high, and vice versa. But then again, the other part of me was a little surprised, since I actually thought it was a little higher. He is seven years older than me, and both of us have only had about two serious relationships each.

Still, I now regret asking him, and I also regret telling him how many partners I have been with. :(

Just out of curiousity, are there couples out there that have told each other how many each one has slept with, and if so, what was your reaction?

Thanks,

C

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 3:30pm
I generally dont ask a guy that question and it has never been asked of me. Too many bad feelings usually come out of those discussions.
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Registered: 11-04-2003
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 3:45pm
I am asking about people that have told each other.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 10:52pm
I hope you did not take offense.
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Registered: 06-26-2007
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 12:35am

Don't ask a question to which you cannot handle the answer.


There is NOTHING you can do about how many partners you (or he) has "already" been with. However , there is something you can do about how many partners you are with in the future.

lips

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Registered: 11-04-2003
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 12:30pm

Thanks for your response.

Can I ask if you've ever been uncomfortable with the number one of your boyfriends has given you? Or were you able to deal with it?

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Registered: 07-16-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 9:46am

Ha ha, didn't need to ask as he told me himself - 'stopped counting at around 180'. LOL. He wasn't lying either - have proof. What can you do? He's 40, tall dark, gorgeous and Italian LOL. I am no saint myself with my ehm..around 50 I thhink lol, at 36, and told him so - if anyone can deal with it, he can, and does. I lovingly call him 'prostitute' sometimes - he really likes it. Believe it or not, I don't mind at all- it's a turn on for me. Makes him more of a man in my eyes.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 3:11pm
Interesting question but bottom line is not to live in the past but to be fully in the moment, which is the present relationship.
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