Christmas planning

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Registered: 09-07-2005
Christmas planning
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Sun, 08-26-2007 - 12:52pm

My bf of 10 months and I were discussing Christmas holiday plans today. He has never missed a Christmas with his mother, but has a few times with his father (they are divorced and live in different countries). On my side we do not have a big family and Christmas conists of spending time we my two sisters and parents who are all living together now anyway. I live apart now so think it would be nice to spend Christmas with my family this year.

Now my bf wants to spend Christmas Eve in Ireland to spend it with his mom and other family, and spend Christmas day with his dad in Belgium. He suggested we spend Christmas apart because it has always been a family thing I should spend it with mine, and him with his. I said that I would like to spend it together. It would be just over a year for us. I am more than welcome to spend Christmas with his family as they consider me family already anyway.

I suggested we spend Christmas Eve with his family in Ireland and fly back early morning on the 25th to spend Christmas day with my family. Of course we leave out his dad that way. Or we could invite his dad and partner to my parents, however, they don't really know each other and due to some circumstances involving me which his parents disagreed on with my parents, I don't think introducing them on Christmas would be appropriate.

Any other suggestions as to how we should work this out? Should I just get over spending Christmas with him and not be bothered about it?

Thank you.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Sun, 08-26-2007 - 1:19pm

I don't think it's fair to ask him to not see his father for Christmas just because you want to be with him. Afterall, you don't want to go with him and give up seeing your family just to be with him.

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sun, 08-26-2007 - 2:16pm
Yours is a difficult situation that many families have to deal with on a yearly basis and there is no way to please everyone 100%. Why not spend Thanksgiving with one family and Christmas with the other?
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Registered: 08-14-2007
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 4:01pm
I know it's difficult to please every family on the holidays especially one where the parents are divorced. How about spending Christmas eve with his mom, then on Christmas day you go to your family's and he goes to his dads?
I know you sound like you really want him to be with your family but I can't think of anything else that sounds like a better compromise.
There have been years that I've had to squeeze 2 families in one day.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 12:44pm

Well you don't have to make rock solid plans yet - Xmas is still months away.

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