how to not to fall in love

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2007
how to not to fall in love
3
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 2:06am
I am now seeing a guy who is 6 years younger than me. he is 26 y/o and im 32 y/o..i know at beginning there is nothing serious about us...we have been seeing for 2 weeks but we never talk about what is our relationship..last weekend we spent the whole weekend together. On saturday i cooked dinner and invited some friends. he was there with me. Yes i like him. i wanna keep relationship with him...but i don't want to fall in love. should i stop seeing him? or should i keep seeing but i have to repeat myself all the time..not to fall in love...not to fall in love.. :(
Avatar for northwestwanderer
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 11:05am

I think the only way to do it is to not see him so often and to try to keep the romantic behavior to a minimum.

It also helps to keep fresh in your mind a list of the reasons why it won't work out in the long run between the two of you (or even better write it down and review it daily).

But even then, I'm not sure it's really possible unless you keep up very strict boundaries.

Sheri

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2007
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 5:55pm
well inorder to not fall in love i think you would have to not be involved with him sexually because that makes it worse along with the spending time together.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 1:36am
Infatuation can be mistaken for love, so make sure you feel out your emotions before you jump to conclusions. You want to have some kind of a dating/sexual relationship but you dont want any love - for some people that is tough because they fall in love with each person they date. Some people dont. If you know that you have a tendency of falling in love witheach person you date, then the answer is to discontinue dating him if you want to be really sure you dont end up falling in love with him. these things happen by themselves so I dont know if there is anything you can do to stop it. You can do a lot of things like not seeing him often or not staying the night or not speaking very often but falling in love defies all that. Sorry I cant be of much help.