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| Fri, 08-31-2007 - 1:05pm |
Hi. Thank you all so much for the thoughtful advice. I have updates!
I went out with Guy 1, the one who doesn't believe in taking things slowly. The date was one of the weirdest I've ever had. The ENTIRE night, he spent trying to convince me to be his girlfriend....on the first date!!! It was crazy. I felt badgered and cornered. After sitting there like a deer caught in headlights, I finally mustered up the courage to tell him that he was moving too fast and that I was not going to make a decision about exclusivity on the first date. He looked deflated, like someone had just killed his puppy. After the date, he called me to apologize for coming on too strongly (to say the least) and asked if we could start over. He said that it was totally out of character for him to be that forward so soon.... I agreed to continue to see him (was this wrong?) under the condition that there would be no pressure for anything more than dating. He's been ok since the date (Wednesday).
Guy 2 reinforced that he did not mean to not call me last weekend, to follow up on going out. He said that his phone really did die and that he had no other way to reach me. When I half-jokingly, half-serious told him that he shouldn't have blown me off, he said that to blow someone off implies intent and that it would not happen again. He's such a sweet guy, saying that he loves that we communicate so well. We really do!
So, that's the current news...I'm still a bit skeptical about Guy 1. I hope he isn't pretending to be sane just to reel me in. His behavior was really strange...imagine sitting in a nice (really nice) restaurant, trying to enjoy your food and having someone give you 101 reasons why you should be with them???
Anywho, that's the news!
BTW: I have two iVillage ID's...Rivegauche and Mali2579...sorry to confuse!
Edited 8/31/2007 2:37 pm ET by mali2579

Ooh, guy #1 is making me nervous for you! I think it's ok to give him another chance, but I wouldn't be holding my breath if I were you. If he's got that unhealthy of a view of relationships (the whole insta-relationship fantasy thing), then it's not likely to change just because you said something.
I'm glad you're giving guy #2 another chance. Of course, as I said before, if he does something flaky again, then you'll have to reconsider but it's not a bad thing to give someone the benefit of the doubt.
Sheri