Is this normal?

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Registered: 09-09-2007
Is this normal?
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Sun, 09-09-2007 - 2:25am
I am 26, but I've only been in a few serious relationships in my life. I have been in my current relationship for almost two years, but I'm starting to have my doubts. One thing that really bothers me is that my boyfriend seems to be obsessed with my breasts (although they are small). He is always reaching his hand down my shirt when we are watching tv together or when he hugs me. Sometimes he even starts rubbing my back and then slowly sneaks his way down. This really bothers me and I have told him, but he gets upset/offended when I won't let him touch my breasts. My other boyfriends never did this, but I have been living with it for so long, I'm starting to think maybe I am just over reacting. Is this normal guy behavior? Any suggestions?
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 11:10am
The good news is that it must be nice to know that he likes your body, hehe. If he is the type of guy who likes a lot of sex, then I'd say it would probably be normal for HIM to be this way, as he may be touching you in hopes of turning you on. If that is not the way to turn you on, then you might want to relay to him so he stops. I have experienced this before too, and it usually was done because the guy wanted to have sex. Does he state exactly why he is upset or offended by you not wanting your breasts touched?
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 1:11pm
He likes your body, he's giving you attention and you don't like it??? Ok, why?


Carrie

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Mon, 09-10-2007 - 6:37pm
"Maybe he shows love through touch."---> true, he could. I am the touchy feely type. Generally speaking though, when a guy is fondling your sexual organs, he has sex on his mind just like when I start playing with a man's penis...
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Mon, 09-10-2007 - 7:33pm
I agree with you.... I hope she comes back and answers my questions.







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Carrie

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Fri, 09-14-2007 - 9:33pm
Thanks for you reply. I have been thinking about what you said. It's not that I don't like it when he's interested in me... It's just that sometimes he does this when I'm almost asleep or when I'm doing work and my mind is on something completely different. If he is doing it just to have sex, I wish he would take a different approach. I think I may need to find the book that you mentioned, because I feel more connected with someone through conversation, not through physical touch. ...we don't talk about much. I guess this could be a different problem.
Also, I've just never had a boyfriend reach down my shirt and grab me without any build up to the moment.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Fri, 09-14-2007 - 10:31pm

Hi again,


Most women bond through emotional intimacy and when their emotional needs are met, the physical part just follows naturally.


Carrie

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sat, 09-15-2007 - 5:23pm

"If he is doing it just to have sex, I wish he would take a different approach."


Then you need to tell

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Sun, 09-16-2007 - 12:39am
Thank you for all the advice! You all have helped me see this in a different light. I will definitely try some of your suggestions.