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| Thu, 09-13-2007 - 11:44am |
Hey guys,
I am finally here to ask for an advice. I don't know if you have read my others posts about being depressed over a long-distance relationship, which ended 7 months ago, but this is a different situation.
After being single for those 7 months, I was dating many men, but never really liked anyone, since I was still missing my ex. Well, recently I met someone from a personals website, and we actually hit it off quite well. We had our first date two weeks ago on Friday. I wasn't expecting the date to go that well, since I just came out for a drink after work not planning on staying for a long time. Surprisingly I really liked the guy. Even though physically he is not exactly the best-looking dude ever, but he is kinda cute, and he also has an amazing personality. I was somewhat nervous when we were having a dinner on our first date, since he kept looking straight in my eyes, and I was stunned by his confidence. That night we ended up hitting a few more bars and clubs. Since he lives in a nearby town, he ended up getting a hotel room, so I went with him. I did tell him that I don't want him to expect anything, and that I was going because I didn't want to go home to my parents (I live with them for now temporarily). He was cool with that, and all we did was just kiss once and snuggled that night. I told him that I don't do one night stands, so he was fine with that.
Anyways, I didn't think that we were going to continue dating each other, but surprisingly he asked me out again a week later on a Thursday night. I ended up meeting his female friend that he knew since his childhood, and we all went to a college bar and socialized for a while. That night we didn't even kiss, but held hands under the table while chatting to his friend. That was kinda cute.
Then, he asked me out again to a movie on a Monday night, and we went for a dinner and drinks again. After that we went to see Superbad and hit a local bar after. On the way home, we were making out in the streetcar, and it was really cute. The next day he told me over msn that I was a great kisser. We talk on msn a lot during the day, since we

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What do you normally do?
Snafu, you are funny!
Well,
In the past I gave in too fast, but I was also very young. Not that I am old now or anything, but have a better clue of the whole men mentality. I think with my ex we waited like 5 dates, too, but we saw each other 5 days in a row...hahha, so that was very fast...Kinda like a love movie and swept by the passion :)
So, if I do it tomorrow, I will try to make sure that it's passionate and bonding not just a straight-up bang ..LOL
And, I will keep you updated..haha:)
Definitely keep us update =)
"I will try to make sure that it's passionate and bonding not just a straight-up bang ..LOL"
Well,
I will sweet talk him...hehe:P
I am good like that! Can't wait for tonighy though, he already rented a car for us...awwwww
Hey Snafu,
He is picking me up at around 7 today from the mall ( I am gonna go for a quick shopping spree before the trip...lol), so I am very excited. Yes, we don't own cars, since we both live in or near Toronto and work downtown. The transportation system is great here, and you don't really need a car to get around. It doesn't bother me. And, because we work downtown, it's way faster to get to work by subway rather than by car. Plus, I am somewhat of a minor environmentalist, so that's one of the reasons I don't own one. Have a great weekend, and I will keep you posted once I come back...hehe:P
XOXOX
SasH
Hey there,
Here is the promised update. It was an amazing cottage getaway. I had tons of fun, and the nature was amazing. We had a very romantic drive and also went to the lake. Anyway, so we got a little drunk and ended up having sex. It was pretty nice, since we did it like 6 times in the matter of 12 hours. However, I wasn't really turned on by his body the way I am usually turned on by other guys. The sex was amazing, but I didn't really feel 100% sexual chemistry, so I am a little confused now.
The next day we were supposed to go clubbing. He dropped me off at my place and went back to his to get ready. He was supposed to call me around 10, since we had to be at the place by 11:30 for the guest list. Anyways, he didn't call me, so I texted him and asked if he was still coming out with me. Then, 30 minutes later I called to say that I was leaving regardless if he was coming or not. So, I called, but no answer, so I took a cab and went to meet up with my friends. Then, he suddenly called me to say that he was waiting on his friend who was supposed to join
Hmm, interesting that you would say that about connecting mentally rather than physically.
Sheri,
Thanks for your advice. I guess you were right that I should have waited longer, but at least my physical need is satisfied. Even though, it's too late to do anything about it now. I have been feeling a little down lately about my life, so I might be overanalyzing things and being too sensitive.
So, he is online now, but still hasn't messaged me. I am starting to think that I was right from the beginning. I feel really used now, and it seems like I gave away my best card way too fast. I wrote on another board saying that I was scared that once I was going to have sex with the guy, he
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