What after first sex?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2005
What after first sex?
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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 4:06am

How do I go back and tell a man that we need to take it slow and remain friends for some time b4 diving into bed again after first time sex? So, I met this guy like 6 months ago and since then we have been in touch only over phone. he called me once or twice a month actually during first few months, but we always had nice long conversations- usually generic stuff and nothing personal at all.. he was also busy with his studies then and he is still doing his studies.. I felt we connected when we talked. He told me the same when I met him recently.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2007
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 6:32am
Ouch, that must've hurt him, you texting him after having sex and saying you want to only be friends. Lol, he probably thinks he's a bad lay! Things sound really nice between you and him. Do you feel like you compromised your morals by having sex with him? By all means, be honest with him about your feelings and tell him exactly why you want to avoid having sex with him again. If you meet with him again and still don't want sex (but are attracted to him), the night should be interesting. ;)

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 12:00pm
Just go for it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2005
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 11:11pm

thank you so much for reading my lengthy email and writing back. I am so happy to hear such frank opinions. It is making me feel less guilty now for sleeping with him! Its making me