I would be upset if he invited me out to go shopping and then slipped the half word with me after i chose a dress thats semi exepensive... Im not sure how comfortable u two are in the relationship but that shoulda been something that was discussed openly and casually on your way to the mall or while your there or he should have said something to you to A. not get your hopes up about him buying u something regardless of the tag or B. to make sure you knew he wasnt planning on buying you anything.
Regardless u r right it was nice of him to help you out.. (but girl its ur BDAY he should pamper u especially after 8 months) thats my two cents
Now about the communication bit during the week i wouldnt look too deep into it especially if you both live busy lives after all when you get home after a long day a work ask yourself would i rather this time to myself or should i use this time to have my ear glued to the phone chatting with him? If you feel the latter then let him know afer 8 months u should be open ... talking to someone and communicating in a verbal way is one of the only ways u'll get to know someone.. you'll find out likes dislikes etc..
The next time he asks you what you want for a gift you can tell him to get imaginative or you can give him a list with some items written down and tell him to surprise you by picking one, hehe.
I replied to this post on another board, so I'm not really going to go into it here. If it were me, that if he'd stopped at the flowers and the card and the dinner I would have been perfectly happy. However, I think it's a little tacky to go half and half on something that can be perceived as a birthday gift. I agree that the OP should have clarified with him on what his intention was- i.e., if he was just being nice and helping her out since SHE was buying HERSELF a dress that's expensive for her to buy at this time, OR if he was doing so as a birthday gift.
Call me old fashioned, but I would be happier with the parts of the gift that were obviously very well-thought out in advance- the flowers, card, dinner- than with a man i've been seeing for 8 months just giving me essentially cash as a present.
I can only do my best..
I would be upset if he invited me out to go shopping and then slipped the half word with me after i chose a dress thats semi exepensive... Im not sure how comfortable u two are in the relationship but that shoulda been something that was discussed openly and casually on your way to the mall or while your there or he should have said something to you to A. not get your hopes up about him buying u something regardless of the tag or B. to make sure you knew he wasnt planning on buying you anything.
Regardless u r right it was nice of him to help you out.. (but girl its ur BDAY he should pamper u especially after 8 months) thats my two cents
Now about the communication bit during the week i wouldnt look too deep into it especially if you both live busy lives after all when you get home after a long day a work ask yourself would i rather this time to myself or should i use this time to have my ear glued to the phone chatting with him? If you feel the latter then let him know afer 8 months u should be open ... talking to someone and communicating in a verbal way is one of the only ways u'll get to know someone.. you'll find out likes dislikes etc..
First of all - why do you associate 'greedy' with asking for what you want? Why are you controlling his generosity towards you with your limits?
Toni
<< Weeks prior, he had been asking me all the time what I wanted for my birthday.
The next time he asks you what you want for a gift you can tell him to get imaginative or you can give him a list with some items written down and tell him to surprise you by picking one, hehe.
I replied to this post on another board, so I'm not really going to go into it here. If it were me, that if he'd stopped at the flowers and the card and the dinner I would have been perfectly happy. However, I think it's a little tacky to go half and half on something that can be perceived as a birthday gift. I agree that the OP should have clarified with him on what his intention was- i.e., if he was just being nice and helping her out since SHE was buying HERSELF a dress that's expensive for her to buy at this time, OR if he was doing so as a birthday gift.
Call me old fashioned, but I would be happier with the parts of the gift that were obviously very well-thought out in advance- the flowers, card, dinner- than with a man i've been seeing for 8 months just giving me essentially cash as a present.
I agree--for me, the WAY he handled the dress buying would have rubbed me the wrong way a bit--it's not about the $$ amount.
Thanks for the clarification.
I think he could have bought the dress but ok - he did keep his word, giving you the cash - and card and flowers were lovely