Most of us can't see what the future will bring - but if you are focused on what kind of life you want for yourself - and that includes relationships and you remain steadfast in pursuing those goals without haveing a set expectation of it being 'this' or 'that' way (people in particular) then you allow the right people, opportunities and situations into your life.
1st - its ok to allow the possibility of resuming a realtionship at a later date when timing is better while each of you pursuing your life goals in teh meantime. the key is to not postpone or deny things that you want because of that relationship, i.e., you live life as if there is no future between you and make plans for the only life you have, your own.
"I know this sounds cold of me but I truly feel that people can change and not feel the same after so long a separation."----> yes, that is true for some people
Most of us can't see what the future will bring - but if you are focused on what kind of life you want for yourself - and that includes relationships and you remain steadfast in pursuing those goals without haveing a set expectation of it being 'this' or 'that' way (people in particular) then you allow the right people, opportunities and situations into your life.
1st - its ok to allow the possibility of resuming a realtionship at a later date when timing is better while each of you pursuing your life goals in teh meantime. the key is to not postpone or deny things that you want because of that relationship, i.e., you live life as if there is no future between you and make plans for the only life you have, your own.
Toni
"I know this sounds cold of me but I truly feel that people can change and not feel the same after so long a separation."----> yes, that is true for some people
Does he know that you and your BF will be apart next year and that you will not have a commitment during that time?
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Toni
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PROBLEM UPDATE
Ok, well some things occurred (not bad) while he is away and we had a long talk and are no longer "exclusive" or have any promises.
"hearing his voice made me grin and want to talk to him longer." awww, it sounds like you are interested in this guy and he is interested in you.
It sounds like you are okay with this new development.
Just a word of caution...if you dont mind...try to not bring new guys to your fav bar just yet.
It sounds like you have your act together so enjoy your men!