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Relationship with a separated man
| Thu, 12-13-2007 - 4:46pm |
About a month or so ago I met a man online.
| Thu, 12-13-2007 - 4:46pm |
About a month or so ago I met a man online.
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Carrie
Be careful on this one.
You're putting the cart WAY before the horse here--you need to meet the guy in person before you start thinking about anything else.
An "intense relationship" where you've never met in person is one that doesn't exist in reality, IMO.
You've gone through this type of thing before, haven't you?
"The next day he said that he has been separated for a year and hasnt asked for a divorce because he loves his daughter and doesnt want to jeopardise the visits to her."
And you believe this?
"However..I am 20 years older than him (he doesnt know it) and cannot have children so basically feel that even if he were single it would be useless to marry him anyway."
You dont have any relationship here or any kind of respect for this man if you can deceive him this way.
Anna
Anna
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Toni
Thanks for the input:)
"I think I should now make it clear to him that although we are staying in the same room it is because he has no money and i expect him to treat me with courtesy and I will lie on top of the bed. I will also tell him I expect him to court me with flowers like other men have done (I just want to see how he takes this!!!!). I cannot see why he wants to treat me as a piece of meat when he keeps saying he loves me!! it is all very insulting:("
Per your statement above - Good Luck! Sounds like he's just looking for sex. I don't understand why you are still going over there. He's not the only man left in this world, why can you try to meet someone in your own town? No need to travel so far to meet someone who is lying to you. PLEASE!!!, he does not have money and can't make calls, I sure hope you are not falling for those excuses (lies). I am blown away in the fact you are going to stay in the same room with him - I sure hope and pray that he does not hurt you. You need to practice safe dating, where you meet people in public before riding/staying with them. You are fooling yourself if you really think he's going to court you with flowers and all. I also noticed how you said you are the one calling him all the time, why are you chasing after a man? Of course, he's not going to say no if he can get sex. How does the saying go "why buy the milk when you can get it for free". Obviously that's how he feels, especially when you are paying your travel/hotel to go see this guy.
Anna
Anna
Well firstly I am going there to check out the place since I plan to relocate to Turkey next year.
Secondly; I am not a 21 year old virgin and even if I was that age, my ex found a 20 year old in a disco, slept with her the same night and they have been together for 2 years now.
Taking risks are fine when they are for the right reasons and for something worthwhile. The risks you are talking about sound down right foolish. That is not taking risks - that is being reckless.
Toni
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