Seems to be a match so far..
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| Wed, 12-26-2007 - 2:58am |
Hi- I did not feel like posting this message in Online Dating group ..I am old here in this group, I hope you dont mind? Its about dating - cant we post any questions we have on dating here?
So I met this guy online about 10 days back and we are exchanging emails almost everyday now. I had registered in match.com but had not yet subscribed. This person had already emailed me 2 days after my profile went public and I still have not uploaded my photo. He had asked in his first email to meet him for coffee since we both actually live in same area! It is a coincidence that I too had looked his profile just once..and he seemed very simple plus honest in his profile. I liked it. Then I posted mine and I really was so surprized I got winks and email from him when I logged in the second day! I was happy to see a response already waiting for me! But I could not read emails since I had not yet subscribed I guess. But I finally figured out that without subscription I cannot read emails in my registered gmail account! After I subscribed and logged in, I saw this person had waited for my response for 6 days and had written a second email asking me out for coffee! So I thought it is only decent to respond back, so I wrote him an hello but also indicated I want to take it slow now..and kind of hinted at him I am not the type who will meet people with one wink and emails. So he wrote me back saying he thought meeting was good idea because it is better than going back and forth. Believe me, he seems to be a good guy, honest plus guess what? In both our profiles, we had pasted one line which was exactly the same sentence- indicating what I am looking for in my match. I feel so far it is going fine..but what next?
WIll he be now expecting me to ask for coffee since he has already asked 2 times? Or do you think he will have to make the move again if he is really interested in me? Both of us are divorced and both so far has not asked each other the backgrnd..we talk topics in general in our emails.
Any tip? Thanks!

I think that the ball is in your court, since you were the one who indicated you weren't ready to meet yet.
In my experience, it's best to meet for a cup of coffee fairly soon--the only way you can really "get to know" someone is by spending time with them in person.
If the match.com thing is new to you, it can seem really intimidating at first. But I cant say enough about this approach! Its a great way to meet people that dont just linger in a bar-scene, no matter what age you may be. I have done it myself, and was very skeptical at first, and when I finally did agree to meet someone, I was dreading it with my heart and soul. But after I went, I realized it was a
Phew! That was all good advice friends :) I will grab the right oppty and ask him for a coffee evening! WHAT IF SOME OTHER GIRL DOES THIS B4 ME? It hurts to think that way! But, yes I will be strong and not go there with high expectations.
Thank you all for the true advice!
Don't worry if he meets other women before you and after you.
I replied back to his email last night..we are exchanging 8th email so far. I was about to ask him in that email if he wanted to meet this weekend for coffee but something made me stop. I think it is my arrogance! I still want him to ask even though I know he asked me 2 times and I said no, but he still has this courtesy to exchange emails with me! but today so far, I have not yet received any email :( Why do we do this? Now, I am going to let go of my ego and ask him anyways.
U think I need to wait till tomorrow (otherwise he will think I knew he did not respond and I immediately showed my anxiety?) God,
Ouch! I am a silly goose, aren't I? Yes, already thought of doing something like that..