Lonely guy dilemma .. should I call ?

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Registered: 12-29-2007
Lonely guy dilemma .. should I call ?
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Sat, 12-29-2007 - 5:20pm

hi everyone,

Would love a female's point of view on a matter I'm experiencing. I met a really cute girl at an airport 2 weeks ago. I sat down next to her in the lobby and fortunately our flight was delayed, and later canceled. We spent around 3-4 hours together, had great conversation and laughed pretty much the whole time. I asked for her number, she agreed to give it to me. Instead of calling (due my nerves getting the best of me) I decided to text her a week and a half after our initial meeting at the airport. Her response was pretty much vague which led me to believe she wasn't interested. My question is, did I wait too long? Do I still have a shot? Now I should mention, I do have a low self esteem problem (probably from people calling me ugly throughout the years).

Do I take the vague, uninterested text responses from her to mean she's just not interested.. or should I bite the bullet and give her a call? I know I'm a really great guy who has a lot to offer a girl, but it's just not easy finding the right one.

Regards,
VeggieV




Edited 12/30/2007 11:08 am ET by veggievin

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Sat, 12-29-2007 - 5:46pm

You didnt contact her for a week and a half soooo - she

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Sat, 12-29-2007 - 5:55pm
snafu, thanks so much for your response! Something just tells me that just because we were in the moment ..at the airport, sitting next to each other that we had this amazing conversation. She actually offered me a place to stay (her studio apt.) if I was unable to get a flight until the morning. I mean, what a sweet girl! But in the back of my head, I just think she's not interested.. that because of the 'moment' she felt obligated to give me her number..full well knowing she didn't really want to hook up. Ugh, I am fully aware I shouldn't feel these feelings, but I do. I am otherwise a confident person, just not around women and I am getting way too old- 33!
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Sat, 12-29-2007 - 6:48pm

Hi..
Just hoping I can read some more responses before I call her, as much as I am afraid of rejection I believe I'm going to do it. Does anyone think she'll be 'freaked out' by me calling?

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Sat, 12-29-2007 - 6:56pm
Yeah...she'll be freaked out in a good way!
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Sat, 12-29-2007 - 7:06pm

Hi Snafu.. one thing I didn't mention- after we separated at the airport , as I found a flight that night and she found a flight the next morning, I texted her to share the good news that night, after receiving her number. I did it out of excitement that I was able to find a flight out of the airport and I ended the text by saying 'it was a pleasure meeting such a gorgeous girl!' . Her response was 'it was a pleasure meeting you as well, enjoy'. So she didn't reciprocate the compliment. Is this something of worry? Ok, I know I'm being overly analytical but I'm trying my best not to feel rejected out of this whole situation :). And I'm once again on the fence that I shouldn't call! Ugh, this is so frustrating..

V

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Sat, 12-29-2007 - 7:29pm

Hi Veggievin!

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Sat, 12-29-2007 - 7:30pm

Boy you like to create your own frustrations..dont you?

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Sat, 12-29-2007 - 7:33pm
Just because she didn't reciprocate the compliment you texted her later that evening certainly doesn't mean that she may not be interested. She may have also been afraid to respond too enthusiastically to your last text a week and a half later since she didn't know if you were interested. She might also not be interested. But you won't know either way unless you call. Supposing the worst does happen, and you find out she's not interested, what have you lost? I know getting rejecting isn't very pleasant, but you won't die, and every time you do something like this, it will make it that much easier the next time you're in this situation in the future. Relationships are somewhat of a numbers game, and you do just have to keep putting yourself out there and trying if you want to find the right girl. Besides, she may truly be interested in you as well. Good luck.
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Sat, 12-29-2007 - 7:40pm
Ok, I'm completely understanding what you guys are saying.. love the reference that relationships are a numbers game. It's Saturday night @ 7:40, she's probably out now, so I guess I'll try tomorrow? I appreciate everyones posts greatly :)
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Sun, 12-30-2007 - 10:21am

ok I'm back in the same boat, unable to call, not sure if this is the right time to call.. it has been a little more than 2 weeks- will she even remember any details from that day we met at the airport. am I fooling myself that i can be with such a cute woman. all these ridiculous thoughts, not sure how I can overcome them at the moment. Believe it or not, I'm a confident person.. just not with these situations. ok enough ranting I guess.

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