Asking about Testing

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-01-2008
Asking about Testing
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Wed, 01-02-2008 - 12:46am

If things look like they're going to get physical, but you're not sure about a person's history, how/when do you bring up if they're healthy?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Wed, 01-02-2008 - 11:43am
The way to say it is just to come right out and say it:
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2007
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 5:35pm

Hi Lisa,


KRISTIE
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2007
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 7:24pm
I hate to make you even more nervous, but you probably want to clarify exactly what he has been tested for. Unfortunately, I learned the hard way that a 'standard' course of STD testing does not always test for herpes, and up to 90% of people who have herpes don't even know it because they don't have any symptoms. However, they can still pass it on to a partner.
So, you may want to actually suggest that you both go get tested for everything, instead of asking when the last time he was tested. Just an idea...
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 7:35pm
It's simple really. Start with "I'm very attracted to you and I know you're attracted to me, BUT I want to be sure that we're both healthy. Let's get tested for every STD in the book and HIV/AIDS BEFORE we take that big step". As soon as
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 12:00pm
You need to bring this up BEFORE you get physical.
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