Need help expressing my needs!!!
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Need help expressing my needs!!!
| Wed, 01-02-2008 - 5:05pm |
So, I have been dating this guy for about a month and a half. We talked when we first started spending time together and agreed that we were going to take our time and get to know each other better before we took our relationship to the physical level. We waited and learned more about each other, it has been great. Last night we slept together for the first time. It was wonderful. I was a little nervous, but I think that is just the "OMG, he is going to see me naked" thing every woman goes through.

I agree...there is no point in being sexual if both parties are not getting what they want on some level.
It is important to understand how your partner likes to be approached when discussing your needs. Some guys like the take charge approach ("slower" "faster), some guys like to play parlor type games or games designed so that the loser has to do something for 5 minutes that the other person wants, some guys like to discuss things after the act while lying in bed, some guys like to be approached about this while doing something else - like watching a movie ("can we try that later?") and I'm sure there are other approaches -or try a combination.
If you are nervous, the safest approach is usually the game scenario where loser has to handle winner's request.