need your opinion please

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Registered: 03-11-2006
need your opinion please
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Wed, 01-09-2008 - 9:11pm
hello! ok so i went on this really good date with this guy i met this past weekend. i mean things just went so well..the conversation flowed well, he held my hand all night. we went to a movie and then went back to his place to hang out...which later led to making out. but nothing really more thats it. anyway, we ended up falling asleep and i woke up at 5 am and said i was gonna head out and he was like are you sure and i was like yeah. so i thanked him said i had a good time and he said he had a good time too. we kissed and said bye. then i got up and left. he didnt say ill ttyl and i didnt say either. its now 3 days later and he hasnt contacted me. i dont know why i feel the need to do this but i just want to text him so bad. i was thinking of just saying something like "hey what are you up to tonight?". what do you think? should i do it? should i wait a few more days? please! i need your input!! thanks and have a wonderful evening!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 9:18pm

Well, my initial thought would be that he was hoping to get lucky that night and since that didn't happen, he's not interested in taking this any further.


I wouldn't initiate contact in any event.

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 10:52am

If you really want to text him or call him then do it - with an open mind.

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Registered: 10-14-1999
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 2:23pm

the fact that you 'need' to contact is the very reason you shouldn't. I'm with Sheri on this - That 'need' is insecurity talking. YOu want to know if he liked you, etc. so you 'need' contact him - all that really is is you satisfying your insecurity by reminding him of you. Hon, when people like you they don't forget you - now its an entirely different story if they stay in your life or not.


Sit on your hands. YOu could contact him and it might make you feel better - but its shortlived. The need to know if he likes you is best answered by HIM taking the next step, not you talking him into it.

Toni

Toni

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Registered: 06-14-2006
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 7:20pm

You just met him this weekend and had sex.