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| Thu, 01-10-2008 - 3:46am |
Okay, so I have been legally separated from my husband (currently going through divorce) and have rejoined the dating circuit...
Well I have been seeing a guy for the last 6 months, we have never said we were exclusive, though we both have been honest and said there hasn't been anyone else either (we are spending all our free time together!)
I have found it very refreshing that we both give eachother our own independence and don't keep tabs on one another (which is something my ex-husband enforced enormously on me to almost 'stalker-like' extents) though I have also found it (naturally) taking time getting used to not getting asked the questions and checked up on by him...
So my issue comes now at Christmas time, we did not get to spend Christmas together as I had taken my children away for Christmas, and we didnt even get to see eachother until after new years.

I don't really think you're over-analyzing this. He got you a present for your birthday a month before so naturally you think he's going to get you something for Christmas. I think it's logical to think that he'd get you something for Christmas. The thing I'm thinking of is... you gave him a present which he didn't open until later when you weren't around, I wonder why he didn't open it in front of you? Then you seen him the next day when he could have raced out and got you something..... anything.... (and it would probably be 50% off-LOL), or those flowers he mentioned, anything. Yet, instead, you got a bunch of apologies.
I think you're just confused because of the birthday present thing then no Christmas present. Now, what if you didn't get him anything and he got you something for Christmas, what would you have done? Valentines day is coming up. I don't think I'd get him anything except maybe a funny card, IF you want to. If he gets you flowers, cool, but I wouldn't get him anything. It's so hard to buy for a guy anyway.
I have been divorce for 7 years now and I remember how confusing that time was while I was going through it. I think I'd just let this go for now but I can understand your confusion. I'd
I dont understand why he wouldnt buy you a Christmas present.
That strikes me as so weird that he went on and on about how bad he felt when he could have just gotten you a gift and given it to you that night.
Well six months isn't terrible long for some people, so he might not have thought it okay to buy a gift for the big holiday.