I can't remember which other board you posted this one but I agreed with the response you got--that you shouldn't be the only one carrying the conversation.
the thing about 'protecting yourself' from getting hurt is that it does NOT work - all you really succeed in doing is getting MORE hurt - because you withold feelings, wants, etc and project unexpressed expectations instead. Stuff comes in but nothing goes out - so eventually you get
I can't remember which other board you posted this one but I agreed with the response you got--that you shouldn't be the only one carrying the conversation.
the thing about 'protecting yourself' from getting hurt is that it does NOT work - all you really succeed in doing is getting MORE hurt - because you withold feelings, wants, etc and project unexpressed expectations instead. Stuff comes in but nothing goes out - so eventually you get
Toni