PLEASE HELP ME

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Registered: 09-14-2007
PLEASE HELP ME
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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 12:17pm
THIS IS MY FIRST TIME POSTING ON THIS BOARD. LAST DECEMBER MY DEAR FRIEND SET ME UP ON A BLIND DATE WITH A STUDENT AT THE UNIVERSITY THAT SHE WORKS FOR. SHE HAD KNOWN THIS GUY FOR SOME TIME AND BASED ON WHAT SHE KNEW ABOUT THE BOTH OF US SHE FELT WE WOULD BE A GOOD MATCH. THE UNIVERSITY WAS HAVING A WINTER BALL FOR STUDENTS AND STAFF, AND THIS GUY INVITED ME. I REALLY DIDN'T WANT TO GO TO A FORMAL, OR GO ON A BLIND DATE, BUT I AGREED TO GO WITH HIM. THE TOWN THAT HE LIVES IN GOES TO SCHOOL IN IS MY HOMETOWN BUT I NOW LIVE AND WORK ABOUT 45 MINUTES AWAY. MY MOM STILL LIVES IN THAT TOWN, SO THE GUY PICKED ME UP FROM MY MOM'S AND IT WAS AN AMAZING DATE. INITIALLY I WAS NOT PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO HIM, BUT NOT REPULSED EITHER. WE HAVE A LOT IN COMMON AND HE IS LITERALLY EVERYTHING I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR IN A MAN. I FEEL THAT THINGS WERE GOING A BIT FAST AT FIRST BECAUSE HE INVITED ME TO CHRISTMAS EVE DINNER AT

PRINCESS NELLY 2005

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 12:42pm

If your BF had told you early on that he was not looking for something serious you might not be where you are today.


By staying in touch with the ex, he contaminated your relationship with doubt.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2007
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 1:03pm

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR PROMPT RESPONSE. WELL, HE'S NOT REALLY MY BF, LIKE I SAID WE HAVE ONLY BEEN DATING SINCE DEC 14 07 SO IT HAS BEEN ABOUT A MONTH. I GUESS HE STOPPED TALKING TO HIS EX ABOUT 6 MONTHS AGO WHEN HE STARTED DATING ME, SO HE HAD NEVER BEEN TALKING TO US AT THE SAME TIME. THANK YOU FOR YOUR ADVICE ABOUT ASKING HIM ABOUT SPECIFICALLY WHY HE DOESN'T WANT ANYTHING SERIOUS. I HAD BEEN SHYING AWAY FROM THE WHOLE EX FIANCEE TOPIC BECAUSE I FELT

PRINCESS NELLY 2005

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 1:47pm

Eventhough he was not dating you during the time that he was speaking to the ex...it still puts him back in terms of his emotional availability.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2007
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 8:26pm

Sounds like your new man is still hurting and grieving.

KRISTIE