new boyfriend, no sex?
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| Fri, 01-11-2008 - 10:38pm |
Hi guys...I'm having a little issue and am hoping to gain some insight...
I have been dating a guy I work with for about 6 weeks now. He's a great guy and I'm very happy. Besides the obstacle of working together, he is significantly older than me (about 9 years). Recently, he initiated the exclusivity talk, and we both agreed that we won't be seeing anyone else. The only problem is that we haven't had sex yet. He knows that I am ready and willing, but insists that he wants to take it slow because we work together and he wants to "do this right." Considering this, I blatantly asked him if he is attracted to me or not. He says he is, and tells me he thinks I'm beautiful, sexy, etc (not the first time he has said this). Also, we make out a lot and seem to have great chemistry (at least i think so).
I have never had something like this happen to me before, and I don't know whether to believe him or not. Now I am committed to him but I am wondering what the heck is going on!!

Thank you both for your advice.
You're right, dating at work is and has been difficult for us. I know him pretty well since we were friends for about a year and a half before any of this started. I believe that he is respectful and is just being cautious, which I appreciate. I am fine with taking things slow, and I don't want to rush the physical aspect either. It's just that I am used to guys my own age who ONLY want sex, and who certainly would never commit to a relationship before sex entered the picture. I think it's just different for me to deal with someone who doesn't want to jump into bed right away, so my initial reaction was that there was something wrong with me that he wasn't attracted to me.