he pursued me and then poof he is gone

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Registered: 11-10-2005
he pursued me and then poof he is gone
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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 11:25pm

I met this guy on a ski trip with my university almost a month ago. We hit it off great, flirted the first night and by the third we ended up sharing a chair and talking for 4 hours. He put his number in my phone and by the end of the trip everyone noticed we were becoming an item. We talked via text message multiple times a day, by phone and by email...and were in contact everyday since we met. He was one of the people at a dinner party I had for my birthday, we spent 24 straight hours together on New Years and both said it was the best New Years ever (he said it first). He stayed up with me untill 4 AM the night before I had to leave for San Francisco (we both live in Ohio) for 3 months and we cooked dinner together that night.

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 12:35am

Gee, I have never experienced such a roller coaster ride within such a short period of time as you have just experienced.


I'd have to say that this guy is very selfish.

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Registered: 11-10-2005
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 12:36pm

Why do guys get scared? and this one seems to have scared himself?


I think that think that digs at me the most is that this is just such a 180 character change for him. I mean his best freind's girl friend had messaged me to say who excited they were to get to meet me when I get back and He almost introduced me to his sister but she got sick the night we were suppose to go out. And all of his friends and roommate that I met knew who I was b/c he had shown them pictures of me.

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 4:55pm

Well, you really dont know if he is scared.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 12:40pm

It sounds like a rebound relationship here. You're both of heavy, long term relationships and its often easier to latch onto something new and exciting and fun to avoid the hard work of grief and mourning and recovery.


It sounds like he needs space but you do as well.

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