opposite sides of the continent

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Registered: 04-02-2004
opposite sides of the continent
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Sat, 01-12-2008 - 2:07pm

Met a guy 6 months ago in Vegas. We hit it off- had amazing connection and hung out for a few nights together. Successful, genuine, and smart. I thought, wow...finally a great guy whom I can actually talk to and have fun with. But...he lives in Canada. I live in California. There is no doubt in my mind that we would date each other if we lived closer and he agrees. We've been keeping in touch ever since by texting, chatting, e-mailing, and phone. I never took it seriously until one day we talked about our hopes and dreams - they matched exactly. We also have common interests. We are making plans to visit each other a few times this year. He says he would move to California in a heartbeat if he ever found a job here. I know that nothing will ever happen between us unless he moves here. I am currently keeping my options with other men, but deep down inside I want to be with him.

I'd like advice from other women or men. Am I crazy? Am I being unrealistic? I'm hoping that he will move here one day... Anything is appreciated.

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 4:50pm
You are lucky to find someone whose long term goals and dreams match your own.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 12:47pm
Long distance relationships can work out... If the two of you can visit with each other a few times this year, fine. But definitely keep your options open.
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Registered: 04-02-2004
Mon, 01-14-2008 - 4:00pm
Thank you for your advice. I really appreciate it. You're right - it's tough to really know if we'd work as a couple if we dont spend real time together. It's easier just to go with the flow. It's too frustrating to think about it, so I'm trying to just give up on it for now.