Getting him to talk...
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| Mon, 01-14-2008 - 8:32pm |
Hey there...
I am a female in my late teens. I've been in exactly one relationship, one ridiculous breakup, and I've recently found someone who I'd like to pursue. My only problem is... getting him to talk.
I'm in a folk dance troupe and my teacher brought this young man to help us with some steps. He is attractive and a fantastic dancer. He danced with me for the majority of the class and I think we both enjoyed it. A week later, as well this past week, I found out he teaches dance to the young children at my church. On both occasions, we waved at each other and he smiled shyly.
I'm a terrible flirt and I don't know where to begin. I get very nervous around guys I am attracted to and tend to freeze up, avoid eye contact, etc. My friends even ask me if I'm feeling ok because, apparently, I appear visibly distressed. I don't want to come across as awkward. What can I say or do?

Are you sure he's single and available and staight? Maybe he's married or involved with someone else and that's why he didn't make a pass at you.
If he's available I'd ask him out for coffee or some other event that involves public places, but only the two of you. If he says "no" or "maybe" I'd cross him out.
If he seems shy to talk to you then you'll have to situate yourself close to him during the dance classes and try to make small talk.