Should Multi Dating be Scary?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2005
Should Multi Dating be Scary?
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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 2:36am

Hi everyone,


I am in a confused state of mind here and need advice. I am a strong girl I know that, I can also have pretty good intution when it comes to what other person is thinking, but now it seems I have lost it since all of a sudden I am talking to more than 2 men! Should I be feeling guilty about this? How do you handle?


I am right now online dating-its been a month now. I am getting lots of emails, winks. I met one guy but nothing worked out. After that I lost hope a little, but then suddenly I find myself talking to 2 other men. I haven't even spoken yet- just emails. I like both these men in each own way and find them interesting.


Meanwhile, the unexpected thing happened which is what is confusing now.. I had met this guy (lets call him P) during last NYE and we had shared some chemistry- meaning kisses and one time sex after a month of meeting. I liked him but I felt it was just a one night stand and had no connection.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Tue, 01-15-2008 - 1:37pm
I dont multi-date so I really cant help with the multiple part...but..things seem to be moving nicely with you and P...why not explore that relationship further?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2006
Tue, 01-15-2008 - 4:44pm
I multi date and I don't feel guilty about it one bit. Men date several women at once all the time. As long as everyone knows the score, why the guilt? I actually wrote a post on my blog about this today. This is how women used to date! They would date several men and eliminate them down to one or two and then down to one to marry. Get out there and have fun! You haven't made any promises or decided to be exclusive with any of these men and they are not exclusive to you. Enjoy the process!