How do I find out?

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Registered: 02-20-2006
How do I find out?
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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 7:19am

I am 20, and he is 26. I don't believe in age differences, but this is different for the both of us. We have a lot in common, and a lot of similarities. I have been hurt a lot in the past, and somehow I want him to know that and that I don't play around. Things are still in the early stage, and I don't want to scare him off by having "the talk". But I want to know what his intentions are before I start to get really interested and then have the rug ripped out from underneath me. Should I just have fun but be careful with my emotions, or is there a light, mellow way to bring it up without sounding so serious and like I'm trying to go so fast??

any advice would be great!

thanks!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 11:34am

When you say you "dont play around" what does that exactly mean?


Definitely have fun.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 4:43pm
How long have you been seeing him?







Carrie

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2006
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 2:40pm
If you haven't been dating very long, I say just keep hanging out and getting to know him and his intentions will become pretty clear soon enough. I would wait to have the talk until you are ready to be exclusive and by then you will probably have a better idea of him.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sat, 01-26-2008 - 4:21pm
You can casually say it's not like you're looking for anything serious this moment but you wonder if he does eventually want to settle down, etc.
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