Is he interested or not?
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Is he interested or not?
| Wed, 01-30-2008 - 11:01pm |
So, I met this great guy last week while I was out with some friends. It started by subtle eye contact from across the bar, than it turned into conversation and dancing for the rest of the night. We had a great time, exchanged numbers, and I even gave him a ride home (no hug, kiss, sex; just a ride. It turns out we live about 1 mile from each other). He then called me twice the next day, but I didn't answer because I didn't recognize his number. He called once the following day, and I picked up. We had a funny and comfortable conversation, and he asked me out to coffee. So, we went on a date this week -- just coffee turned into dinner and coffee. I had a great time, and it seemed like he did too. The conversation never stopped and we seemed to have a lot in common. At the end of the date we hugged and he told me to call him/invite him the next time I go out.
So, here's my question. I know that the traditional dating rules say that if the guy doesn't call me, then he's just not that into me. However, does the fact that he told me to call him mean that he's interested in seeing me again in a dating way, or just in a friendly hanging-out-together way? I'm going out this Friday, so I'm wondering if I should invite him. Also, I found out while on our date that he is divorced and has a 4 1/2 year old son, which I have no problem with. However, I'm wondering if he thinks that this fact might scare me off and so he wants to leave continuing our relationship up to me if I'm interested. Any advice would be great!
So, here's my question. I know that the traditional dating rules say that if the guy doesn't call me, then he's just not that into me. However, does the fact that he told me to call him mean that he's interested in seeing me again in a dating way, or just in a friendly hanging-out-together way? I'm going out this Friday, so I'm wondering if I should invite him. Also, I found out while on our date that he is divorced and has a 4 1/2 year old son, which I have no problem with. However, I'm wondering if he thinks that this fact might scare me off and so he wants to leave continuing our relationship up to me if I'm interested. Any advice would be great!

I would tend to infer that him asking you to call if you're going out means he's most likely interested in being friends, but since you left it that way with him, I think you need to call in order to find out if he's really interested in more but wanted to leave it in your court.
If you are going out with a group of people this weekend you can call him and invite him to come along, why not?
Ahh yes I feel as though I'm a similar situation! Yah know it's 2008 and things have changed perhaps he is rusty in the whole dating scene and would like you to hold the cards, aka call him and see when and where he wants to hang out. He has a lot more on his plate after all he has a child. Yah know women can also make the first move and a lot men like it that ways! So yes call him and see if he is interested , sitting here pondering what to do, will not make it happen. Also if he is busy , find out when he is available again and see where it goes from there, what's to lose you'll at least make a new friend and he might know someone else who you can meet :)!