emotinally unavailable man is playing me
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emotinally unavailable man is playing me
| Tue, 02-05-2008 - 10:42am |
I am in a yo yo relationship
We have been together just over a
| Tue, 02-05-2008 - 10:42am |
I am in a yo yo relationship
We have been together just over a
NO, you don't "play him at his own game".
You are in quite a predicament.
Hi Gina,
Rather than stooping to playing games, why not try something different?
YG
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Hi there
You are right about when I have tried to move away he has been very sweet...and fearful of losing me. late last year this happened. One day e was in such a mod he just snapped and walked out of my apartment - he woke up like this...the next day he came over and said 'look i am confused - i dont know what i want' I want to spend time with you but time alone to see how i feel....
I was so strong here..i responded 'I cant be with a man that doesn't know what he wants - especially at your age' (he's in his late 30's) If i accept your proposition then it means i dont love myself - so you leave me no choice but to break up...The next day the sms started he asked to see me...he said to give him time etc etc..
After we settled..again... that's when he started to dig at my self esteem in a very manipulative way...firstly about my body (that i am too skinny) then about my freckles - that i needed laser and the worst about my job - i.e you're in a managment position you should be able to handle this better bla bla...
He left me alone on N.Y eve saying the last minute that he didn't like what i had organised (he kept telling me he didnt know what he wanted to do) and I went out without him..
Now he is implicitly blaming the relationship breakdown on me...that i am the nag...that i am too pushy too demanding too this too that...
I guess i will just have to make myself scarce....
I tend to agree with you that this man wont change ...he will just fine another victim for his poison
However for some reason i feel altruistic...this man needs help and
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You can't. People only learn what they are willing to open their hearts and minds to.
Toni
Some of the best advice given to me about men is this:
BIG RED FLAG!!!!
MOVE ALONG SISTER!