confused and in need of advice

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Registered: 04-09-2007
confused and in need of advice
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Thu, 02-07-2008 - 1:10am

Okay..so I met this guy who is in the same profession at me so he understands everything...the busy schedule....ect....we have a lot in common besides that as well...and at first i thought we were good friends...and..he went out on just one date with this other woman...and one week later...when we were hanging out...he ends up making out with me......and he admitted he likes me HOWEVER


"since he already went out with the other woman once before he has to continue seeing her until she does something wrong---and only then can he stop seeing her"......???????????


what does that mean?? In the meanwhile...the last 3 weeks after all this happened he has still kissed me occasionally.....and sees me everyday since we work around the same area........and sees the other girl once a week.......what do i make of this??...should i not let him do anything until he ends it with the other girl? should i tell him to end it with her? I don't know...i am so confused since i do like him...and he is the first guy i have so much in common with. ......

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Thu, 02-07-2008 - 1:42am

Listen girl I know how u feel... this guy and I.. omg, we have so much in common.. we laugh all the time, share everything, etc... but he is confused.. one sec is so so into me, and then another not.. I know what I want and it is *not* someone who is wishy-washy.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 02-07-2008 - 11:58am

Sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it too.

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Thu, 02-07-2008 - 1:17pm

Hi Kerry,


The other posters have nailed this one on the head.

 
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Registered: 11-10-2007
Thu, 02-07-2008 - 1:54pm

"since he already went out with the other woman once before he has to continue seeing her until she does something wrong---and only then can he stop seeing her"......???????????


"what does that mean?? "


That means he is playing you.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-07-2008 - 2:03pm

It sounds like he's not ready to be exclusive with either of you at this point.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 02-07-2008 - 2:09pm

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-07-2008 - 2:22pm

Ah, that may be.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 02-07-2008 - 2:46pm
LOL!

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Registered: 07-10-1999
Thu, 02-07-2008 - 10:29pm
He obviously is still seeing her because he WANTS to keep seeing her. Has he even taken you out on a date yet? It sounds like you are his play thing on the side while she is the girl he is actively pursuing. At BEST, he likes you both and is not sure what he wants. I would make it clear to him that he has to choose between the two of you. Otherwise, you are just going to get stuck as his little play thing.