sleeping with the enemy

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Registered: 07-06-2004
sleeping with the enemy
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Sun, 02-10-2008 - 11:38pm

Ok, so this isn't about sleeping with the enemy as it is a question about dating someone I have strained relations with, but the title is so much catchier! ;)


There is this guy that I have never dated or even been intimate with, but over the last year, but virtue of our life paths, have spent an increasing about of time with, though not be an effort by either of us to do so. In fact, our relations are often strained and result in bickering over the most petty of things. I almost find him impossible to deal with sometimes because it seems like he makes it difficult on purpose for me to deal with him.


Despite all of this, several people (around 6 or 7) that we both know have, on separate occasions, suggested that he and I date. This does not make any sense to me. I just wanted some feedback on this to be sure I am in the right. I say that I am right in refuting this idea, as I think someone I can't be civil with on a daily basis is not someone I should date. Or am I wrong and they are seeing something I am not and this hostility could be pushed aside if we spent more time together?

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Sun, 02-10-2008 - 11:45pm

Is the bickering fun like sexual tension or is it real bickering like u r genuinely annoyed?

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Mon, 02-11-2008 - 11:14am
I wouldnt listen to anyone else in this matter. People give the worst advice when it comes to dating.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2008
Mon, 02-11-2008 - 6:37pm
Sure you could date him and he could find times when he is sweet and romantic, but you already know how he frustrates you.
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Registered: 02-05-2008
Mon, 02-11-2008 - 7:45pm
If he is so frustrating, I don't think I'd date him.