should I write him off completely?

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Registered: 12-22-2005
should I write him off completely?
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Wed, 02-13-2008 - 1:34pm

Hi there,


Gal Blondie

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 4:23pm

welcome to the board


Isn't it hard to be patient in these kind of situations!!

 
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Registered: 11-10-2007
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 5:44pm
Pay attention to his complaints about Ann because that could be you next.
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Registered: 12-22-2005
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 11:20am

He did text me last night to ask about hanging out on Friday. I politely declined. Once he is more clear on what he wants, I will consider seeing him, or once I feel like I am OK just being platonic, whichever comes first. I like him, but I think he needs to work a little harder than this, plus, I need space to think about if I really want someone who isn't sure. I have 2 dates this weekend (different guys) should help to take my mind off of him, and if it's meant to be, he'll do the necessary work, if not, well, I don't know how much longer I will care. Every day it gets a bit easier to think to myself, 'well, I guess he doesn't care, I guess I shouldn't either.' Not to say that he doesn't, but at this point maybe not as much as I'd like.

Gal Blondie

Gal Blondie

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 11:34am

Sounds like you've come to a good realization.

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 3:10pm

Good for you fro taking care of yourself.

 
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Registered: 12-22-2005
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 5:19pm

Thanks for the words of encouragement. I only know that I want a relationship based on mutual respect, integrity and honesty, and quite franky, meeting men and getting dates is not a problem for me. Maybe *he* will put in the needed effort and make a decision, but in the meantime, I am over his lack of fortitude.

Gal Blondie

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 12:27pm

Thanks, Vexer. I had a nice date with someone new the other night. I still hear from my friend, and I have given up the idea of us dating, as too much time has passed now (almost 2 weeks) since I saw him, due to my not being available and his being sick. I am guilty of returning his text messages, which are not about *us*, just jokes and chit

Gal Blondie

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 12:38pm
Why not?

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 12:54pm
Yeah, he's a great buddy, and down the road there could be something there, but for now, no. I think that continuing to keep some distance and occasionally hanging out (in public places) might be OK. We have a friendly skeeball competition going right now at this place we hang out at (and, ironically met for the first time at), so we talked about a future hangout involving skeeball (and him getting his a$$ kicked). We'll see. He's a lovely person and good friend. Like I said, the timing just isn't right.

Gal Blondie

Gal Blondie